Yeah, this topic's a bit philosophical, but I wanted to start some discussion and pickup is a style that should lead to this sort of chat.

A few years ago I took a class on sexual philosophy that was incredibly fun and funny. The professor, through his own interpretation of earlier philosophers and with his own opinions and beliefs, came to the conclusion that there are five goods to be gained from sexual acts. They are:

1. Physical Pleasure - obvious

2. Creation - also obvious

3. Friendship - a little trickier. Plato's Republic was a book that tried to find an absolute definition for good. Friendship as my professor put it was based on that discussion, and it is about providing goodness to another person and not doing any sort of harm. So Friendship basically means providing any of these other 4 goods to your partner(s) for no reason other than you want to provide them.

4. Unification - Sex as an expression of love, two human beings becoming one for a brief moment, yeah its more spiritual than the previous three.

5. Transcendence - This is the idea that the act of sex brings us closer to God, enlightenment, true happiness, whatever your personal view may call for. It improves your life even when you are not engaging in the act at that very moment.

The professor went on to say that sex is essentially good, but sex involving all five is better than when it involves just one or two.

Now for the question, do you agree with this statement? Do you believe the ultimate purpose of sex is procreation, and therefore removing it somehow denies the goodness of it? Do you think it is a means of achieving orgasm and nothing more? Or do you have a totally different take on it.

In reality, I think your answer to this question reveals your motives for learning the skills taught here and on other websites and may help you decide where to go next if you are relatively new. If you don't know what your goal is for sex, how can you go about finding a woman to help reach that goal?