Hey guys,
I've had this problem for a while. When I get a k-close, and like the girl enough to get a # close, I start to develop one-itis. If a girl is pretty, and I have a good time with her on the night, I think about her a lot the next day and try and text her. It's worse if she is very into me on the night, because I think it's ok to be very open/affectionate to her, even tho I only met her once. If I don't get a reply or if she flakes, I get upset. The problem is, if a girl is my one-itis, she always flakes.

I'm trying to sort this out by keeping busy, having hobbys, going to the gym. I know it's not healthy to develop one-itis this easily. Anybody got any ideas as to why this happens? And how to fix it? I need to fix this once and for all.

Chers guys,
Visor.

For me, is having my cold approach skills down. If a girl flakes, you know you can go out and pick up more women

Also, this goes along with being internally validated. You don't need women or any other outside factor to be happy. Your just happy. So if a girl turns you down, you go out and sarge, is not effecting your state.

Do other things. I get like that too, sometimes. Then I realized that it's because after a crazy night on the town I relax the next couple days. If you are just sitting around you think about the previous night, and eventually want to talk to her. So instead, just find something else to occupy your time. It can be going out and meeting other girls, it can be playing poker, it can be hanging out with friends. Doesn't matter, just has to be fun.

I have historically had a problem of getting oneitis later on, like maybe 3-5 dates in after the first bang, or the first extended makeout.

The only way dealt with it was to either back off substantially or drop the girl completely. The latter may sound really extreme, but if we're talking about a oneitis where it's messing with your mind, it's sometimes for the best. takes some painful discipline..

You guys were saying to have hobbies and interest outside of pickup AND going out and sarging. This IS the right way to do things in my opinion. Learn to have fun without any one particular chick by your side... Best way to combat One-itis that I know of is GFTOW. This is... Go Find/Fuck Ten Other Women (and/or develop the skills to do so). Your one-itis should be relieved a bit by about halfway through the cycle of 10 lays. Have fun.

-Chicoman

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Thanks for the reply's.
So basically, keep busy. But why does this happen? I'm sure that the girl isn't thinking about me all day after the night out. I'd like to stamp this problem out completely. I don't want to have to keep busy. I want to just not have this ridiculous urge to text the girl straight away and tell her I like her and want to see her again. I want to be more laid back. That way, maybe less of them will flake.

their all just sperm recepticles

Visor - I hear you on this. While hilarious, Herne's mentality is perfect. The core of oneitis is that you are not following the Abundance Mentality. Somehow, your emotions are tricking you into thinking this one is special/the only one for you/etc. I feel that oneitis is the manifestation of your sense of scarcity.

I believe you have to fix that mentality first before the usual advice of 'keep busy' helps you.

I had some of the worst oneitis of my life earlier this year and guys on here set me straight. I aim never to let that happen again.

Teknine,
how did you go about fixing your oneitis? Care to elaborate more on the abundance mentality?

I don't know if it's good advice or not, but this is what works for me.

I try not to jack it generally as it makes me complacent. It's much more game boosting to hold out till you can make a deposit at the sperm bank, rather than reprimanding that brainless monkey time and time again.

BUT, because of the absolute complacency that occurs after, when I feel one-itis comming on I just indulge myself. I bust out the porn sites and dig for someone that looks just like that person. I picture all the nasty shit I want to do and for some reason staring at a look alike some how makes it seem less fantastic. Once the deed is done and I'm passed out in void ball bliss I just sleep her out of my mind.

When I wake up I make it a point to give myself a little break and do something I love to do that has nothing to do with chicks (like netflix a good movie, or work on a hobby or renovations at my house or something). After that straight back to numbers game. By the next success I get, the one-itis is typically gone.

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Psych3r, thats interesting, thanks for sharing lol! +1 rep for herne, funny reply, but it sure does help! I think the abundance mentality is indeed, and that is achieved through having good game!