ok, so i'm indian. that means i'm quite family orientated. AND i kinda have a huge ass extended family.. there is almost always some type of family function going on every other weekend that i'm expected to attend. most of the time, people who arent family, or are so distant that they dont count as family attend. often that leads to some HBs rocking up at the function..

most of time at these events, i play it chilled and i'm with my cousins and we're all talking shit, also thinking through on different ways to get the hot girl at the party. but that's just it. we usually just talk about it and dont have the balls to actually do anything about it.

other times when i'm alone with just my parents, i usually do this alfa kinda thing from the time i enter.. i'm sure i've seen girls making eye contact with me, like a few times while i'm at the party, but i always kinda chalked it up to there being something wrong with me, or maybe they have been judging me. i've never really approached them cos i really didnt know what to say.. i think cos of the eye contact thing i like build it up too much and lose confidence to approach, i know now that i should approach ASAP.. i end up most of the time leaving and wondering what could have been, and regretting not doing anything.

i've been reading The Game, this forum and some other stuff.. i know that day game is different from night game.. but is there any advice for this kind of situation? family friends, or family events? can anyone direct me to any posts that may help.. thanks for reading.

Game can be used anywhere at anytime, if your just starting out then head over to the open and approaching section and find a couple openers that you like. There is hundreads in there so im sure you will be able to find a couple.

Practice by yourself to start with until your congruent with the material, use a mirror and a voice recorder (Maybe thats just me) to find any faults. Once your comfortable head out to a bar, mall, cafe etc etc and practice. Once your got the opener working come back and find some routines and DHV's you like and start setting up a routine stack and a cheat sheet, and practice again, do it all in baby steps...

thanks for the reply.. appreciated.. but does game change when you're in a setting with people you know.. i've seen a few posts and read that you shouldn't try to pick up in places that you're gonna see people that you know often.. like you shouldn't try to pick up at the bar you and your mates always go to.. cos it creates awkwardness next time and stuff like that.. is this true, or just BS. should i just try picking up and hope for best..

I see where you're coming from. I am Jewish (Israeli) and in our society family events are beefed up and can quite often bring lots of people you don't know including hot girls of your age.

I do catch your concerns - like you're going to show some character your family doesn't expect from you and you'll tun a family event into something of lower value such a going out to pick up women.

But see, back in the old days, there was no such thing as meeting women in a bar or a pub or a party. People would actually meet sexual suitors in events such as weddings (or Bar-Mitzvahs in the case of Jews ).

You just have to do things a bit more traditionally, and even get to the point you impress your own family by acting like the man you are. There's no shame in meeting women and I'm quite sure that with some creativity you could turn the whole family events thing into an advantage.

Thats a great place to start running game, even more so if your just beggining. Its good because you are already comfortable at that location which will make it easier then heading out to a loud club where you dont know anyone or where anything is.
Try to get an opener and routine planned out and work on it. If you fail a few sets, go and look at what your problem is, is it the material? the way your presenting yourself? are you forgetting a False time constrait (eg. Hey guys I cant stay long, so real quick...)

Should you try picking up? Yes

Just hope for the best? Not exactly, know what your trying to acheive so you can see where your going wrong and what your doing correctly

thanks AvihooI.. just wondering though.. what the hell does the eye contact mean? is it what i mentioned above. like she's judging me or something.. i'm pverweight and quite self conscious about it, but not like a lot.. i still have a goodish body build and figure, kinda.. if i see it happen again should i take it as an invitation to approach or maybe avoid this chick, or am i just reading into this wayy too much..

thanks alot mercurial.. really helpful advice

Women don't judge. They test. If you think she's looking at you saying to herself "oh boy what a fatso" (no offense intended - just trying to play out how it could be in your mind) - then she's not. In fact, women focus less on the "static" you, and focus more about the "dyanmic" you. That is, they care less about what you look like and what physical attributes you have and more on your appearance (clothing, accessories, etc...) and how you project yourself in terms of behaviour. If you're self concious about something it's going to make you feel like you're judging yourself - therefore you'll always appear like you're not worthy of the good grading by women.

The eyes are a powerful tool to determine who has a higher social value. Take a look at the "alpha stare" wolf leaders practice upon lesser counterparts. I am not saying we're wolves, but we can learn a lot from them. Always use your eyes, the way you look at the world, to project your manliness and mental strength. When your gaze crosses a hot girl's eyes, don't just panic and think "she's judging me". Rather think "wow, I wonder how much fun I can have interacting with her". This mindset will radiate and she'll feel more interested in getting to know you.

I get you. I'm indian too, and I completely agree with the "traditional" outlook. It really is how guys and girls met back in the day. You won't be coming off as going there only to pick up girls, though even if you are, your family will probably smile at you knowingly like I was just like that back in the day. I feel like you're not only self conscious about those girls (who are by the way, DEFINITELY not judging you. only you are judging yourself) but what your family will think. STOP THINKING SO MUCH. I promise you that you are worring too much. Just don'y be a creep about girls. make friends with the girls, hit on them, but not super blatantly, just smile and be funny or interesting. If you're still worried, try meeting EVERYONE you don't know, even if it's uncles, aunts, family friends little kids, anyone. Then you'll naturally meet the girls (even though I think it's fine just to try to talk to the girl as long as you're being friendly). Just be more social in general, and these family events are GOLDEN, because you usually meet girls with a lot in common with you.

thanks a lot AvihooI and Hinduplaya.. your advice is gonna be a big help with AA.. kinda keen to get out into the field soon and get some experience..

oh ya forgot to add: respect is the key thing(in all cases in my opinion, but it will also be what differentiates you from what you're afraid of) always respect the girls.your family will only be like wtf if you're sleazy about it or something