| Hey man, we almost got the similar situation.
Im 19, soon to be 20. I live alone because I had problems with my parents.
I'm from kazakstan/russia/sweden and i live in sweden, so i got a mixed look.
I hear i look asian or latino.
How i started with the game:
My sister actually gave me the game book after reading it,
and told me to read it, but not take it seriously.
So I did, the book was great but i didn't take it seriously.
But now after 2 years I read it again, and again and again.
And now I know things some of my friends really don't think about,
since I got a sister I can ask for her advice as well and that helps alot.
You always have to be open minded of stuff but be logic about it too.
So first of all about your situation..
You have to start being independent, you see couples, maybe listen to sad music,
stop that..it will get your wounded, focus on yourself, focus on how to improve yourself.
And ofcourse money is the answer to most of your appearence, so get a job!
Just focus on yourself first, you are young as me, girls come and go, its dumb to get stuck up about it. And dont read to much of the forums and so on, try to do thing your own style, i also read this forum, the books, and so on. But you have to understand that it's just material and facts for you, and you have to use that in a way that suits you. You cant be someone else, because you will only be stupid, and that sounds logic to not be someone else. Focus on your body language, read about it, you will learn so much about humans and communication. You will learn how your body language will be, and how to read others, thats golden my friend. First impression is important. Tips is to read about it, and stand infront of your mirror, thats what I did and after a while my self confidence was high because I knew all my impressions, I also stood infron of the mirror when talking on the phone because you do things you don't notice but when you have the mirror infront of you, you can actually see everything. It sounds stupid but try it and you will see for yourself. The first goal is YOU, get your head in the game, start taking care of yourself. You're only 18, you got your whole life infron of you so don't rush in to things. Start prioritize what you think matters the most for you and start doing it. You can always train on your approach anxiety by asking for the time, asking about a good clothing store or a restaurant, by asking for a job, or a good movie. It doesnt have to be a pick up. You will learn many things from this as long as you are open minded, like if you don't get anyones attention, think about how to get it!
My advice is to start with yourself before you start with picking up,
train on approach anxiety and how to keep a conversation.
Respect girls, they are not only someone to fuck they can be good friends and a good source too, they can actually help you.
You have read many things, stop reading, and think about it, you can't just read without understanding the facts they are telling. Take notes, because when you think, you will actually come up with really smart stuff too, mistakes, better ways to do stuff, or something you might want to try some day.
Good luck my friend!
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