I see a lot of tips on here about how to cure oneitis. Such as go find/fuck ten other women and just give up on that girl completely. Others say to just move on and stop talking to her. My question is, if you really care about a girl why would you give up on her? You can try several pua techniques on her and possibly game her. If not, it is always experience for the next girl and at least you know that you dont have a chance rather than never knowing. Personally, I am doing quite well with my oneitis right now and have just k-closed her last night. I am not "obsessed" with her by any means and always attempt to stay alpha (even though she is genuinely an alpha female if there is such a thing). Just wondering if any of you actually won over your oneitis and what happened with it? Maybe you even realized she isnt as awesome or perfect as you once had thought...

is your oneitis a friend or an ex-gf or what?
walk me through this you're making some head way i'm gonna have to formally request you put more detail down for us

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haha complicated story. Shes a basketball player at my uni, im the crazy mascot. Ive known her(never really talked though) for about three years. I tried hitting on her afc style three years ago through facebook..yea im that jackass. Anyways, I got rejected several times from her so I moved on but always realllly liked her and admired her. Now this past semester she was in my class and I immediately looked for and found this forum. Thank God for that!!! I am a very outgoing kid and started talking to her in class so she could actually get to know me. I started playing hard to get and making convo but also hitting on all the other hb's in class and not focusing on her a whole lot. Towards the middle of the semester I got her number and occasionally texted her. The thing is though, she knows she is awesome. She hardly texts anyone back or writes back to anyone on facebook. I had to play her game so I started not texting back either if it didnt warrant a response.
Finally I called her for a date, which went really well except I chickened out on k-close which hurt me. I could already tell that I was halfway in the friendzone. We started texting a little more but I would only give her half the effort she gave me. I called her to borrow her book for another class one day and we ended up talking for a while. We agreed to do the classes community service requirement together and I left. So we did a few hours the other day and conversation was great. I escalated kino and did the occasional neg with a smile. We went out for lunch after and then agreed to hang out the next night. That night we went to yoga(same place we did community service, we found out about it there). Escalated more kino, held a sexual frame and then kissed her right as we got to the car. And again at her place. So now we each need a few more community service hours which I guess we are knocking out on monday. So far, so good though.

*Edit* I should note that I am also an actor and trying to make that my career. But at the same time, anyone should be able to control their nerves to at least the point where she cannot tell

awesome! well done mate.

Do, please, keep us updated on how it goes.
Good Luck with it

Sheps

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I managed to get my first one-itis ever. I wasn't even into the PU stuff back then, all I focused on was "Be cool, be persistent, be sexual".

Obviously, with no knowledge in my head, this was going to be HARD.

But I kept my cool and did my best. Everytime I felt like giving up - my "love" for her (lol) pulled me back into the action.

Yeah let's just say it took me 2 years to get her. 2 years, no joke.

And to answer your question: She was nowhere NEAR perfect. Besides me, she had 8 others guys she was fucking. 8 other guys, still not joking.

Even though I loved her throughout my entire freaking soul - there is (today) absolutely no way that I would date a girl with her personality. And I don't mean because of the cheating part.

I mean her validation seeking, needy and ANNOYING behavior - which most 'sluts' happen to posses anyways.

Experience is experience. I wouldn't take back a second I spent with her. I learned my lesson and can read women so much better these days. Without her, it would have taken me soooo much longer to improve and be who I am today.

Good post panda! The funny thing is, I was very much attracted to this girl before I even really knew her personality.

But now that I am getting to know her, I keep getting even more attracted. We actually have a lot more in common than I would have known.

Anyone else have a positive story after chasing a oneitis?

i got my oneitis once, as long as you dont become needy and insecure and get to know the genuine girl (not the superficial persona she shows to everyone else) you'll know if you like her properly

my oneitis became, who was in some of my classes became my gf for 2 years and we were perfect for each other... i fucked it up a few months ago and if i manage to take my own advice i might be able to get her back. i wouldnt change a thing (except i wouldnt fuck it up again)

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i am the kind of guy who instinctively holds onto oneitis'es forever.

it's something i've had to learn to not do. but it goes against my nature.

the way i learned to get over oneitis'es was to recontact an ex (my "first love", lol) a few years back...

i saw what a ridiculous piece of crap she was and it gave me a true-to-life lesson on the difference between:

- the idolized pedastel version of girls

and

- the real person

now, i'm just generally disillusioned with the ideas of relationships at all.

never had one that wasn't WORK.

who likes to work?

seems like the more work you do, the scarcer her pussy availability becomes.

so many girls are willing to give up the milk, without making you buy the cow,

if they convince you to buy the cow, they laugh at you, and give the milk to others for free.

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I blew it with her last year, and regretted it ever since. I still talk to her occasionally, and we still have a very good report, but she now is in a relationship with some other dude, and so it is useless focusing any of my emotional attention on her.

I'll probably have the "oneitis" for this one for a long time though, tbh. She's really cool, and is pretty much the perfect girl for me.

define "get"

i been in love with my best friend for 7 years and after her breaking up with her Long time Bf we started talking again. then one random night ( i was at a U2 concert was there for jay-z) she text me and told me to come over. so i did and we had sex. it was only meant to be a one time thing for her. for me. i took her for a RIDE man! got like 10 more lays out of her. during the hole time tho i was a TOTAL AFC so when she fell for someone else. i got mad and called her a slut. not my best work. so after might for a month or 2 i told her to GTFO after the truth came out.( i was over her house one time and she told me to get lost so she could go fuck another guy. just after we had sex.) she even called me up after a month of that to apologize for the hole thing. and i just told her no.

so there you have it.

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"rapport" = a feeling of being in sync with someone

"report" = a paper you write in english class



(sorry, i'm not usually a grammar policeman, but i figured i could lend a hand)

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Yup. Oneitis on tons of women. Even ones who rejected me AFTER they rejected me.

Last last night actually I couldn't sleep knowing I was going to a meeting the next day with some of my mates in the organization, one of which I have Oneitis on. I was thinking, I'm gonna do this and that and some kino here and there and maybe do some of Style's "hypnosis" routines on her and stuff.. Guess what, the meeting was cancelled. I was actually very thankful it got cancelled 'cuz I never to sleep the whole night and yesterday morning I just found a chair at school and slept on it.. There were countless good looking women I could have approached and talked to but I was so tired, even if I didn't have AA I felt like crap and I couldn't get myself to leave the chair...

I have yet to get rid of oneitis completely. You've probably always heard this advice saying you should have oneitis on women you 'have no chance' with (which is funny because we probably all know now that given the opportunity, we all have a chance with them) like celebrities and stuff..

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Ex-name: stelphie, origin: a combination of 'Steph', an HB I had one-itis on at the time of registration; and 'Selphie', a videogame character I thought was hot.

i got a huge one-itis.... i have a huge crush on mack

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Sounds like you've been running some pretty solid game with this girl, nice work.

Just remember not to jump in too quickly just because things are going well, you don't want to end up getting your heart broken. My friend flew all the way to Canada from England just to get ditched by his oneitis when he landed. So yeah, just be wary of getting in too deep before you know you two are really compatible.

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Yup, it took some perseverance (her bestfriend was in love with me and she was already in a relationship), but 2 months of serious gaming got it done.
Was great. Then it ended.