I'm going out with a friend of me, which brings another friend with her. A cute girl which i like fucking.

She doesn't give me too much IOI's but, this is what i got:

First going out: nothing

Second going out: nothing but she's opening up

Third going out: some strong eye contact + going home walking hand in hand (her friend was too wasted so was no prob getting rid of her)

Fourth going out: she and her friend come to my place at 2AM, we drink, the friend of her again too wasted and falls asleep.
I tell her, let's go to my room and watch a movie.
We start watching, she falls asleep.
I try to get close to her when sleeping, but all the time she's lying with her back thowards me.

So, this girl for god's sake SLEPT IN THE SAME BED WITH ME (note: it's a double bed, so we didnt had kino.....) but seemed completely dis-interested in any making out, let alone sex.

There were 2 more empty beds available for her. She didn't mind going to my room to watch a movie in my bed. She didn't mind falling asleep there.


Is this a complete waste of time?

Thanks..

your thinking about this too much, show interest in her, let her know you like her in a sexual way, but be cool about it.

next time you're in that position, use a few kino games, then if you're getting ioi's go for the kiss, and then FUCK HER!

You're thinking too much really. I slept with my best friend on the same bed all the time, even naked, we cuddled, spooning but we never had sex. Same bed doesn't mean sex. And she was in the same bed with you because you asked her to watch a movie, she didn't say hey lets cuddle on your bed.
But yea, fourth times and you still haven't made your intention of sleeping with her clear. Next time escalate the vibe toward sexual, and if you happen to be in bed with her again, don't lurk around like a desperate AFC, make it playful, throw in some kino games.

haha, the same thing happened to me!

A girl travelled 4 hours to visit me! We went out and she slept in my bed and......nothing happened?! We were alone the whole weekend in my apartment, still nothing happened.

You know why? I scared to escalate. I did not show that I was a potential sexual lover. A girl won't take initiative, she will wait for the guy to lead and she will resist a bit and will go along. If the guy doesn't do anything, she will absolutely do nothing (ASD)

anthonypham is right, if YOU dont escalate the chance of it happening is pretty much 0...
take it slow and build up the sexual vibe by say rubbing her arm or ribs or neck while you're watching the movie (thats assuming you guys are cuddled up, you would want to make it like you dont realise you're doing it) and start making solid eye contact and i think its called the triangle... left eye, right eye, lips
then when she's holding you're gaze for long enough or starts looking at your lips go in for a kiss slowly OH and like the movie Hitch i'd say go 90% let her come the last 10... if she doesn't pull back 5% (she should hopefully move in) if not go for it and if she says no ignore the cock tease!

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You guys are right, i should escalate more, but this girl is so fucking damn cold.

She never searches any bodycontact.

All the time i swich conversations sexually, but she doesn't go along.

Her coldness may be a reflection of your fear of escalating. Women use iois to get your attention or get you interested, if you are already clearly interested in her, she no longer has to do this. So she may appear cold, but perhaps she is simply waiting for you to make a move or act sexually towards her. And the more you act this way, the more she will respond in kind.

You are calling her cold, but chances are you could have done anything you wanted with her in that bed and she would have had no objections. So perhaps while you think she's cold, she thinks you're too shy.

next time, ask her to join you in a friendly game, strictly platonic of course, of "hide the sausage".

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