I've read some other posts, about getting this ONE girl. . . (oneitis)

But I have read all of them and they aren't quite my situation.

I have not yet had the LJBF talk, so I would like to assume that I have some sort of chance with her.

I went to High School with this girl and I struggled with whether or not I was even interested in her. On the day I decided I was, another guy asked her out earlier that same day. They went out for 2 years. During the summer she graduated she broke up with him. So now she is single!

So here's where I am with this girl.

We are friends, but again I haven't asked about being more than that, and I am trying to avoid the LJBF situation. . . I don't buy things for her, but I have been doing things to try and stand out. i.e. She is going to college that is 3 hours from where I live, and I told her that I would come and visit her and we could go to the beach. She didn't think I would follow through, but I did come visit her and we had a very nice weekend.
I went to the mall with her and "we" went shopping. This is something I know stood out, because we had coffee a couple of weeks later and she wore one of the things that she bought while we were at the mall. I mentioned how I thought it looked nice. She said "I know! I wore the other outfit I got yesterday when I was with my mom, and she asked if she was with me when I bought it and I said no, I bought it with Jack!" (she did sound excited)
So that seemed like some points on my side.
We went and saw a movie (I didn't pay for her), and we hung out around her dorm, and we stayed up talking til 3 in the morning. Which I also believe got me points because she told me, "I like this. . . being able to talk about things that I wouldn't normally talk about."
So here is probably the only down note, but let me know if it's a big one or not. She did talk about her Ex, and how she knows she doesn't want to get back together with him, but she wanted to stay friends with him, and he has kinda been giving her the cold shoulder. I mean, she didn't cry but I realized she was kind of getting upset over it.
The next day we went to the beach, and I did treat her to dinner, but I let her give me gas money to get home on because she insisted.

Now there are a couple of other things that seem insignificant, but again, let me know, I am a newbie. On facebook she moved me up in her top friends thing. Also, she put a new picture up, and I had commented that she look incredible and she wrote Thank you Jack!! I love ya!! (exact type). . . basically I am looking for some IOI's from her. I am at a stage I think where I just can't read if a girl is interested in me.

Other than that I have a lot of things going for me. I play guitar, I sing well, I dance, I draw, and I have a great and growing career.

Like I said, I really need some help, and advice, whatever you can throw at me. I need to Close this!!!

I'm not trying to sound rude but dude your acting like her girlfriend. I mean she still likes her ex it's pretty noticable. The problem with that is the more he ignores her the more shes going to want him becauce it looks like he's moved on to better things. Now if you want this girl your going to have to change a few thing my friend. If it's not to late already and why I say that is because when you reach a certain point with a girl and you had the connection but didnt take advantage of it you automaticaly considered a friend
because now if she sleeps with you and it doesnt work out she won't have you to talk about puppy dogs and ice cream.So to avoid this she prob wont want to be sexually involved with you. Do you catch my drift? You should have locked this girl in the weekend you went to the beach and instead of taking all nite you should have been useing kino ,and kissing her, and then haveing sex with her man
. Now you have to change your whole train of thought and make sure she knows you like her more then friends and then see if she rejects you. This way you don't waste any more of your time or energy and just use her as a freind to get other women and just maybe you could get her useing the jealousy meathod.
So any way just start acting like your already dating and see where it goes. This works for me sometimes another meadthod is start taking away. what that means is stop contacting her wait for her to call you and invite you to her place ,ect. this way in the back of her mind it's like shes chaseing you and eventually she'll become to like it and want you because your a CHALLENGE. and thats what women want and thats why she still likes her ex because she can't have him. Now do you get it?
Best wishes friend I'm sure others will have great things to help as well

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BRENT AKA "HOLLYWOOD"

when I say we stayed up all night talking.

I was talking to her by using the questions game,
that's how her boyfriend came up. She didn't bring it up
she thought of him because of a question I asked.

The next day we continued the questions game at the
beach, and she was asking me questions that I have
read online before. Like about how we want to die,
or how you want to be buried, questions that can
give people an idea of how you want to live.

Sounds like you're already in the friends zone to me. Sorry to say it, but thats what it looks like. Some girls say, "I love you!" all the time on facebook/myspace, I get it all the time from girls I am friends with. Going shopping with her - friends go shopping together. Staying up talking until 3 in the morning, more friend stuff. Also, paying for movie tickets and dinner is not a bad thing. When you go out with friends, do they pay for their own movie? Yes. Its good that you paid for her dinner, but I'm afraid you may already be in the friend zone.

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