Hey all, hope everyone is well.

Well, I've been gaming a girl from my college for a few weeks now. Primarily online but I see her occasionally in person. I'm relatively confident that she's attracted to me, and I think I've built enough comfort to ask her out on a date.

Now, I'm not desperate for/expecting sex with her anytime soon. I'm okay with that though, since she's more girlfriend material than a ONS, so I'm happy and willing to wait a bit. Having said that; I don't think I want to wait until marriage. I say that because I think she's a christian. I don't know for definite, but I'm pretty damn sure. I could explain why I'm not certain, but it's not really important. I'd say there's at least a 80% chance she is christian though.

Now, do you think it's better just to cut my losses and not bother with her anymore? Like I say, sex isn't something i demand on the first date by any means, but at the same time it's nice to know that it could happen at some point. I can't imagine a long term relationship without sex, to be honest.

It's not a big deal really, I have other irons in the fire, but at the moment I feel like a relationship would be good for me, rather than random sex. Which is why I'm bothered about this. She's a great person and extremely hot - it would be a no brainer if the whole christian thing wasn't getting to me.

What do you guys think? Any similar experiences?

Edit: for what it's worth I'm not a christian. Even less chance for development?

Really appreciate any help, thanks!

um... idk bout christians believing in Chastity..
chastity = waiting for marriage to fuck
but i've talked to some christian friends about chastity and they say they've never heard of that.

watch out for catholics... catholics HEAVILY believe in chastity

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I wouldn't make the immediate assumption that all Christian (or catholic) girls are automatically waiting until marriage before having sex. Judaism and Buddhism also require both men and women to be chaste. It all depends on her personal beliefs

In my experience, Christians are bigger freaks than athiests/agnostics. Christian teaches you to repress your sexuality (your nature), but it can't really be fought. It comes out in other ways, and a lot of (especially young) Christians tend to lash out against that.

Okay, the biggest thing about chastity was the purity ring craze. Using god, or religion as a smoke screen they try and get high school girls to be abstinent, this later made its way to churches. But most main stream christians will speak against sexual promiscuity however sex is not considered out of the question. Speaking as someone raised in a very christian home, most girls that made the vow or whatever were the ones who never had a pressing situation or ever exposed to temptation.

In my experience, religion is a pretty big divider. Depending on how strongly they believe, (this can change depending on certain events that occur, ie. death of beloved family or something) will determine the compatibility.

They might end up attempting to convert you and what not. that really pisses me off.

They might end up not having as strong an attraction because of the difference of beliefs.

My opinion, don't do it. If you end up taking it somewhere and you have kids, what is the childrens' beliefs going to be based on?

Don't expect a fuck all the time but I wouldn't say it's a waste of time depending on your goal.
I'm a Catholic myself and a lot of my female friends in my Church group demonstrate very high values such as self respect, intelligence, hardworking...

Don't expect them to be kinky but they are wonderful people. If they do like you however, they might not express it (you'll only see IOIs but they won't admit it) as they're discouraged to have exclusive relationships until after getting a job to be able to sustain themselves which isn't a bad thing.

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I found that Christian girls do have shitload of LMRs, however 70% of them are freaks in bed

Really really grateful for all the feedback guys, it's been invaluable.

I guess I'll just go on as normal for the time being, go out with her and play it like a typical date and see where it goes from there. My only fear is getting in a little too deep before she decides that she can't be with me, but I guess that can happen with any girl!

Thanks again guys.

Really going to depend on this particular girl. Like these guys are saying, a lot of religious girls are absolute sexy manics (because of whatever reasons.)

I've been with catholic girls that have given me a bj in a nightclub the first night I met them and I've been with catholic girls that took 2 months to fuck... All depends on how firm her values in her belief system really are. I'm a christian but i fuck like a monster because waiting til marriage for sex just isn't something i hold high in value...Sorry JC.

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Dude, I'm watching you jump to all these conclusions about her being a christian and the truth is you haven't even taken the initiative and found out if she actually is.

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Yeah you're right man, I know the simple thing to do would be to just ask. Since we're just getting to know each other the conversation has been relatively light, so I'm hesitant to bring up religion, not only is it controversial but it might show that I have an agenda?

I'm a pretty devout christian myself and my advice is to stay away.

For the record, chastity= no sex. Those are the nuns and monks. Fornication is premarital sex, which is forbidden in Christianity, of any denomination. If she is down with having premarital sex, then she probably isn't much of a christian (or she needs to re-read the Bible). For yours and her sake, I'd stay away from her. Christians are not supposed to be with non-Christians (for theological reasons I won't bother to explain). It would make things really hard down the road for the both of you.

I know that sounds intolerant, and it is. But I'm not making any judgments here. I'm just saying it like it is. I'm just giving you a Christian perspective. Plus, if she is a devout Christian, chances are her friends and family are too. And even if she likes you, you likely won't get the approval of her social network (in fact, they'll directly be working against you). And don't bother converting to Christianity for her, because people see through that crap like Superman sees through women's clothes.

Guys I actually wrote an ebook called "The 3 Girls of Papa" its totally free but the first and 3rd girls where devout super catholics... i'll email it you, just pm me ur email

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You might show you have an agenda? Man you think too much. Bring it up subtlety ask an innocent question and let her take the lead on the subject. "I was reading the newspaper and they had a photo of Jesus in a piece of toast". there religion is in the topic ask away!

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