This LR-esque post is about my ex, who i have been texting on and off for a few months, she's been playing hard to get all the while... i texted her and asked if she wanted to hang out, she was busy all that week but she'd be free the following week. when the time came, i tryed to touch bases with her and she told me she had gotten a bf. 3 days later i continued making advances on her and it was soon made clear that she was very horny. She sent me a few naked pictures of herself and we sexted(i didnt once ask about her bf so idk if she is single now~ as if i care). It went well, in fact i still have a naked picture of her as my phone's screensaver. Afterwards she said she had to run errands, i said "that's fine, maybe we could meet up tomorrow, i really want to see you".

I texted her that night and suggested we see a movie, she said it sounded great. The following night(when we were supposed to see the movie) i called her and she said that her friend jackie(a girl) had wanted to hang out with her and that she hadn't seen her in a while. I was firm and insisted that she came to the movies since she had already made plans with me. She said she couldn't and that she was very sorry.

This flaking is a re-occuring thing with her; before we started dating last august, she flaked on me a few times before we finally hung out which led to us dating. She's been playing hard to get and I don't think i've texted her since she last flaked. I think i've punished/ignored her long enough and should prolly contact her today. What do you think i'm doing that is enabling her to flake so much? What can i do to avoid it all and finally f-close on her(we never fucked while we were dating)? She's so much work and im beginning to question whether or not she's worth the hassle...

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when we dated she said she wasnt ready for sex. during the sexting convo she made it clear that she does want to fuck now[eg ioi's: "mmm cum inside me", "FUCK ME HARDER", etc.] the cum inside me and other fetishes she displayed made it seem so. maybe im going about this in the wrong way, maybe instead of wining and dining her, i should just suggest that we hangout and then fuck her in the back of my car lol

after she flaked on me, i still went and saw the movie and this movie-theater-fail-vt93098.html happened

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At the end of the day you need to ask yourself, am I a sheep or a wolf?

SHe is keeping all her options open: she still hangs out with her bf, and sometimes she is in for some time with you. SHe likes the attention she gets from several men.

If you continue taking initiatives to hang out, she will keep the way she is treating you.

If you stop contacting her, two things can happen:
1. She misses you and will find out it is fun with you. Then she will contact you (and the game will be reversed) and it is your turn to let her win you over.

2. She forgets you, since she has another guy who is entertaining her. But then you know she is not worth your time.


I would suggest to call her and tell her that she should treat you with more respect [show boundaries, DHV], that you still want to hang out with her but you are fed up with the games. That you are free the next week, and she should suggest something to do then.

I don't know if telling her why you are upset or calling her out on her "games" is such a good idea. If you tell her you are mad at her, you are beta. That is showing her that she has the power to do that to you. Don't tell her anything, show her instead.
If you call her out you are also beta. It says to her that you aren't alpha enough to control her frame and you can't lead her.
I wouldn't tell her anything to let her know how she is affecting me.

well how should i try to tame this beast then? i really wanna close with her, we've hooked up b4, it shouldnt be this hard

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At the end of the day you need to ask yourself, am I a sheep or a wolf?

don't give up, it techincally hasn't gotten "hard" yet since youve yet to see her again, or often.

I agree that you shouldnt complain, by doing so it would suggest you guys are close and you care about each other... when really it just looks like both of you want to get it in.

play it cool, NEVER ask why she can't go. Once every couple of day's suggest something to do with her, only ONCE. Don't do something like a movie, drinks, dinner, shit like that will make her think youre more serious. Initiate something with her soon that is easy and fun, like... getting cofffe, hitting some golf balls, chillin at a park, getting a light lunch, whatever you get the idea... as well, let her bring her friends if she wants, in fact, suggest it! If she wants that meat log, all you have to do is get her to see you, make her comftorable, and than escalate on the spot or a day later. "Im bored... a friend cancelled on me, wanna get a quick lunch?" shell probably say yes because its no big deal, than ask her to chill at your house after... or have the lunch, see her next time and suggest just being lazy at your house with some ice cream or something (fuck her afterwards).