Ok my problem - imagine situation where you are in some place (waiting room, bus or whatever) and you have 2 girls sending you IOI's. In this case I do not open anyone of them because I know that the other one will feel bad. I know that some of the people does not care that much so they won't relate to my issue, but maybe some do
By the way I am not your regular "nice guy", I am healthy cocky and stuff like that, but I am nice guy in general (inside).

Open both of them and chat away.

It would be foolish to just go over and speak to one of them while ignoring the other.

yeah dude, flirt and schmooze and interact with both of them. How is that going to make anyone feel bad. You are at a bus stop for God's sake, there is no commitment to anyone there. You don't have to pick just one. If they both want to go out, take out both of them. If they are both down to fuck, fuck both of them, that's what a 3-some is.

When you get engaged to be married, then you are under a commitment. Untill then you don't owe anyone exclusivity.

And on another note we need to talk a little bit about "nice" and what is good and bad about "nice"

There is nothing wrong with being respectfull of people's feelings or of doing nice things for them.

When nice is a problem and bites you on the ass is when nice = being a pussy.

So use this formula to help you determine if you are being a good nice or an AFC nice.

If nice = weakness or pussy that is bad.

If nice = doing the right thing or strength of character that is good.


So for example an old lady carrying a bag of adult diapers trips and falls on the sidewalk and you run over and help her up, make sure she is OK and help her pick up her diapers on the sidewalk - that is good because it shows that you are strong of character and not afraid to do the right thing even though it may be a little awkward or embarrasing.

If you let someone manipulate you or do something that you do not believe in - that is being a pussy and a demostration of being weak.


So let's apply that formula to your busstop dilema. You are basically AFRAID that if you interact with one person, that will hurt another person's feelings. There for you snub both of them because of your fear, even though you have no obligations or commitments to either of them and deep down you would like to fuck both of them. There for your action (or inaction) in this case is due to fear and/or insecurity. That all = pussy.

so any time a situation comes up, ask yourself is it nice because it is the right thing to do and shows strength of character?

Or is it nice because I am afraid of something or being weak or being a pussy?

Right thing to do or strength of character = do it.

Being a pussy or afraid of something or too weak to stand up against it = don't do it.

Actually I am that second nice, not the pussy. You got it all wrong (not sure where do you get that). I was not afraid to open, I just did not want to hurt feelings of the second girl. Its like sometimes you don't say your honest opinion about something in order not to hurt people's feelings. Its not the pussy nice, its "the right thing nice".
Another example of me being nice - when a girl is ugly and asks me could we hang out I don't say no because you are unattractive woman, I say something like well you are nice girl, but we don't click. So thats the "right thing to do" nice, and not "afraid to say that she is ugly" nice. The same "nice" plays in my original post, I am not sure how could someone get it as pussy nice
Plus thats why I clearly stated in my OP that I am NOT your regular "nice guy".

Ps: I think it should be better called "good person" and not "nice guy". That may be more clear and helps avoid misinterpretations.

Opening both might be the solution, but I am talking about the situation when its not really an option. For instance you are in the bus and one girl is 1 meter away to your left and another 1 meter away to your right. Its simply not possible to open both at the same time. And if you open one, and then another - its bad because both will mark you as a so called "player".

gaming is fun for:
1. the gamer, PUA, because he sees he is good with ladies
2. girls, because men are interested in them. This will do their self-esteem good

Then let your open be a general funny observation, when you see the other girl react to something you said, say something to her "Wow! you seem to like that idea", half of what I do isn't hitting on girls, it's joking with them. You can use her reaction as an opening it's pretty easy believe it or not. I don't get listed as a player, just some guy who happens to be the "personality" in the area. When I realize an attraction I use it to my advantage. It works very well when all you do is joke around, you never get denied and you always get opened.

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