I'm a divorced, 34 year old father of a 9 year old child. I live in a small-ish college town (250-300K population) which lends itself more to college or family lifestyles. When I've gone out lately, I'm starting to feel a little older. I suppose daygame is the other option but I'm having trouble finding places where I could approach women comfortably during the day. I suppose part of this is fear of being rejected in a place like a bookstore or coffee shop where everyone can hear/see that you are hitting on a female. I'm digressing a little but my real question is...

Is this worth pursuing at my age? Where is the best place to start for someone in my situation? I'm coming off of a 10 year relationship so this is all more strange to me than I expected. Thanks for reading.

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what are you pursuing r u looking to find a special women or r u lookinf for fun mystery and style still do this and ther in ther 40s there r girls lookin for a older man and there girls ur own age u just need to get over aproach anxiety like all of us u dont even need to try to be a pua u just need tp get out there bro

Good question (however you could use a dose of punctuation ). What I'm looking for is to date around. To have a few girls that I can have fun with and learn from and maybe share similar interests. I'd also like to increase my social circle which I feel is a real problem for me. Most of my friends are married or in relationships or just have absolutely no radar for meeting girls. It seems really hard to make new friends, male or female.

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Sorry to hear about the end of a 10 year relationship. Unfortunately it happens but now is your chance to bounce back. I would recommend trying to bounce back sooner rather than later so that you don't get into a slump. I guess this is pride rebuilding.

One thing that I have quickly learned while lurking and posting on these boards is that IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. Seriously. If you think that you can't pick up women, or will get rejected in a bookstore or whatever, then you probably will. This lack of confidence will be sensed by the girl through things like body language and eye contact, making her more likely to reject you. However if you approach a girl and just start saying things with confidence and eye contact, she will most likely receive it very positively, and it really doesn't matter too much what you say. Remember that girls are just people just like you and they DESIRE to be picked up, just the same way you DESIRE to pick them up. However, they are going to be more reluctant to allow themselves not to be picked up by just anybody, the same way you will not pick up just anybody. Be friendly and be yourself but PLAY THE GAME and you will get girls.

Personally I think 34 is a great age to be picking up women. You can easily do it if you play the game.

I am 24 and one of the biggest obstacles I have overcome is height. I'm just under 5 foot 5, but even for short/bald/ugly/fat guys it is all in their head. I still let it bother me sometimes, but I'm better than I was a few months ago. It's all in your head dude. Ya pussy. 34 is a perfect age dude. Now go out and get some women.

go for it youll meet women and if you see a girl just aproach dont spend more then a second thinkin about it thats what canned openers are for and if u cat think of one just smile and say hi

This guy speaks wonders. As soon as you see a girl you have to get to the point where you don't even think and you just approach her. Ya pussy. The more time you spend thinking about the different possibilities of what will happen, the more time becomes lost, and the more likely you will fail. So, I definitely think it is important not to lose time and just do it. However, I do understand that this can be difficult for those less familiar to Game. The more experienced PUAs have conditioned themselves not to even think twice about approaching women that they want to approach, similar to the way you have conditioned yourself to be afraid.

This is actually really helping. Thanks dudes!

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no prob bro anything else

without reading anything but the title:

NO YOU'RE NOT!

Think nothing of it mate, keep working on it and if you need help just ask!

i have seen 50 year old men picking up 20 year old girls ...... yes age does matter when it comes to having a relationship because it can be a issue ... but not for everyone

catherine zeta jones married and fucks michael dougles ...

there are enough old dudes screwing young woman .. look at hollywood.. the proof is there.

i even know a guy who is 20 years older than his GF.

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I hope its ok because I"m 33 and 1 year divorced! The one rationality that keeps me on track is this:

Just watch all of the couples you see in public. What I've noticed is there are hot girls with every single type of guy -- fat guys, bald guys, goths, idiots, meat-heads, etc. There is no way I can be worse than all of them. And I know it isn't because they are extra cool, or rich, or anything. There are ugly guys with no game still landing hot girls. Why not you and me?

OP, check out meetup.com and find a regular group you can join for random social events like a happy hour, hiking or whatever. You don't even have to game, just be present.