hey guys i've known about the pua community about a year ago but i just decided recently to get serious about improving myself as a person.

anyway i met some chick and she was funny and a bit weird, and i felt attracted to her. i think there was a connection but all i did during the night was put my arm around her when we were watching a movie (this is at a mutual friend's house) and she didn't object. a few days later i told her out of the blue on facebook message that i liked her. we started talking on facebook privately but i don't know how to make her attracted to me, i'm hopeless with girls always don't know what to say.

i know that i shouldn't have told her i liked her, but the past is the past and i can't change it, the only way to move is onwards, so any advice guys?

If she's still expressing interest in you, assume she likes you and arrange to meet her. When you meet, flirt with her and touch her frequently, if she is receptive, kiss her. Browse the forum for date ideas and other techniques. There is also a lot written about conversation. Try to be relaxed and don't over analyze things, don't act needy, and you should be ok.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

you can tell people you like people .... as long you don't do it from a needy frame...

i tell people i like them all the time, it doesn't mean i want to have sex with them or a relationship. im not saying im in love , im just saying '' hey your cool to hangout with''.
next time be sure to make clear it just means you like their personality and nothing more.

you did not fucked up yet....

ok stop caring what this girl thinks of you , as long you are caring about what she thinks you will behave more introvert. To have fun and be in the moment AND really have authentic interaction you need to release the attachement to the outcome.

go game other girls... work on your body language , voice tonality , negs , opening lines and above all ... adopt certain mindsets and certain lines which makes you more confident.
start with this mindset .. i do not give a shit what other people think of me.
when you have developed some skill - go and game the girl you like.

think about this : Words don't mean anything for woman , woman only unconciously react on the underlying meaning/context of the interaction, by unconciously picking up cues from your body language, voice tonality and social congruence.

the same words i say to pick her up do not work when you say it .. yet ... because i have a different meaning attached to those words and behaviours - which are driven out of certain mindsets and values i've adopted.

that means you can tell someone you love her... maybe a person you have met 5 minutes ago. I dont care and im not in love with this girl , her unconcious mind knows this because she picks up certain signals.
now don't go around telling people you love them , it's horrible - you need to have good inner game first.

when a girl does not object - you take a step backward ( release the physical touch ) and then take 2 steps forward ( regarding physical touch and escalation in general ). it's simple shit ... she's just giving you permission to touch her. You could have kissed her on the same night if you had better game , i know i could so can you !

i want you to take up another few mindsets or goal :

you will not sleep with woman for the next few weeks.....
you will not get into relationships with woman for the next few weeks
you will try to learn as much game as possible ... tactics etc.
you will learn as much inner game as possible
you will try to be in the moment and have as much fun as possible

this will release all the pressure regarding social interactions , when you go out to have fun and learn new things , you won't be a idiot like all those other chodes with SEX tattood on there foreheads. You will try to go out for the purpose of fun only and other people will notice this, you will be less caring because reject won't harm you that much.

To get the girl you want you have to be good with woman in general .... getting into a relationship with this girl would seriously affect your game because you would be less motivated to improve. The girl you like is the least important thing right now , at least it should be.

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yeah i had a feeling that liking and chasing after this girl could be a very bad thing for my game. thanks for the advice guys this has really helped me with how to deal with a crush.

By the way Lodewijkp could you please elaborate on the mindsets you were talking about? how would you get yourself thinking like that? just by talking to yourself or do you have to do something more?

Write down affirmations and read them 2 or 3 times every day.... Also think about them when you see a hot girl. When you read them often enough over time you will hypnotize yourself into believing it .....

if clouds were pink and you would see them everyday you would agree they are pink right ? it's just a matter of time to get the concept internalized.....
this won't be in 2 weeks or a month ... it takes longer to interalize certain concepts , the fastest way to internalize a concept is going out just for mastering the concept.

Once you have it stick into your brain you have to get calibration from your enviroment to support that belief, this will make it stronger BUT you need to realize you are the cause of that experience - you are the cause of attraction!. If you really think you are a cool guy and you go out just to get cool conversations ( as goal or purpose) people will be comfortable around you because you are not going out for sex or woman itself - you are not trying to take value from people but you are offering value by offering cool conversations to people. you cannot take up mindset and still be trying to get vagina in the back of your head, you really have to believe it - if others believe it as well thats ok ... if they don't well fuck them..

once people notice that they will be nice in most cases and your belief will get stronger.

just go out on purpose only .... you should be a guy who always does something for a reason...example : when i play online on my xbox360 i play to win games for people - im not only playing for fun but i know i can make teams win, i know got value to offer instead of taking value.

Most guys go out for picking up chicks which is enough on itself .. because eventually you will get woman , but do you really want those woman ? those woman already know you are trying to get sex because your body language is conveying that ? why ? because of a certain level of inner game ... certain mindsets.

all the mindsets you create should be :

1. focused on your internal .. meaning you do something for yourself, you don't pickup woman because you are needy ... no you pickup woman because you are a cool guy who has alot to offer.

2. detach from your enviroment... meaning you don't care what your enviroment is telling you what to do, you only do things because you want it. If you are in a bar stacked with woman and your goal is working on voice tonality , you shouldn't be distracted by those girls - you only initiate conversation to practise your voice tonality even if woman are grabbing your cock you push them away.

there is alot of material available on these subjects , alot of good books as well. but you should keep in mind that it is thriving on preperation and action .. only those 2.

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thank you for the advice it is greatly appreciated. going to begin with the mindsets as soon as i can!