Hey guys,

so recently I've been in a relationship with this girl I've wrote about here few weeks ago. Everything is really great so far (beginnings, I guess) therefore I'm trying to push things forward to sex. So we've been together on a party about two weeks ago (we were together for a week back then) and we had separate room in which we've slept. I've started to kiss & touch her legs, belly (shirt off), basically just heatening her up, which worked perfectly (that 'eyes closed, mouth wide opened' face) BUT. When I've tried to touch her more sexually - boobs, she took my hand away each time I've tried with smile on her face. Well, I wouldn't be myself if I did not try again, but same shit happened EACH next time, and there were loads of attempts (like whole night of , um, gentle foreplay without sex) I've managed to touch her boobs through bra few times, but that's not a big achievement I guess and she would still eventually took my hand away. Same situation happened one more time at her place, but I didn't work that hard as before, so maybe that's the reason.

It would be totally fine if situation happened in public, I mean if I started to touch her this way with some people around, but we were alone, so option called 'I don't wanna seem like a slut' is kinda crossed out.

I think she's not there yet or I should've work even harder.

I believe she's feeling like this could be something and don't wanna ruin it by too fast sex. It's going to be month soon, so why the fuck would it be too fast? We're twenty. I know I ought to talk with HER instead of moaning here, but maybe I could pick up your brains guys.

I know it's just matter of time and few more tries, but I would like it to happened as fast as possible since we're going to have some breakup during our vacations.

Maybe I just should've just take her pants off.

Oh, we're both twenty.

Most important advice I need is telling me whether should I keep things sexually and continue trying to get into her pants, or maybe try to chill out and be a little bit unavailable.

Still, any responses appreciated!

I have the EXACT SAME situation...
i have no idea what to do, i am still trying.. i will let u know when something happens

Hey mate,

looking forward for your post then! And, of course, gonna do the same if something occurs.

Come on guys, anything? It's really important to me.

I've had a few situations like this before, not in relationships though.

You say you've only been going out for a few weeks, do you know much about her sexual history? If she's a virgin or fairly inexperienced, she might be wanting to wait until your relationship is a bit more mature because she's worried that she's rushing into things. However if you know that she's slept with x amount of lads, it's a different ball game. On the contary, maybe she's had a dodgy experience or two with lads, and therefore her trust levels aren't great?

A few times I went back to a girls room who was studying at Uni, and she kept pushing me off whenever I tried to take her knickers off, saying that she "didn't know me well enough", although after a few more dates and rapport will build she was quickly the one kicking my boxers off!

If I were you i'd slow down, show her you aren't just after sex (not that i'm saying that's what you're currently doing), and just take things as they come. If, a month or so down the line she's still doing the same, i'd push things on and question her about it then.

Just my two cents.

B x

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Right now you're pushing for it.

DO NOT EVER "talk with her" about sex. It's deeply UNsexy and UNromantic.

The way to get her to fuck is to make her WANT it.

This starts with being a confident, dominant man who LEADS her, from telling her where to meet you and what to wear, to holding her hand and taking her where you want to go, to pinning her arms above her head and kissing her passionately (and being the FIRST to break the kiss), to whispering sexy things in her ear in the middle of conversation, to holding her by the small of the back and caressing her gently as you talk or dance, to THROWING her onto the bed, etc. etc.

The best way to not be pushing too hard, is to use push-pull. The way it works is simple and effective.

1. Anything neutral or positive from her is consent = green light to move forward one step
2. Anything negative from her is "too fast" = break contact completely (i.e. don't just move back a step)

For example, you're holding her by the small of the back, she's cool with that, so you kiss her, she's cool with the kiss and enjoying it - BREAK the kiss first and move back to just normal touching. She now WANTS you to move further. You then can escalate further - kiss more deeply and run your hands around her body, touching her legs, inner thighs, ass, etc. She's cool with that? Great, break that before she gets used to it and start kissing her neck, for example...

You're kissing her neck, she loves it, you move down and kiss her breasts, she moves your face away. Don't react, just break all contact and go change the music. Come back and start again somewhere else, and try again a bit later once she's starting to get more turned on.

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yep Ryan already mentioned some stuff.
It really matters if she's a virgin. If she is you should really let her be comfortable with it.
If not she clearly needs to be fucked

Push-Pull is right but make it more extreme.
When you try to touch her boobs and she pulls your hand away, then back off completely. I did that kind of stuff and I summarized everything in a LR lr-about-shit-tests-expecting-the-best-vt91856.html
so there you get a bunch of information from.

By now I love when a girl shows LMR and isn't that easy because that only makes it more fun to game her and get what you want