I would have posted in the Relationship section but dont have enough posts yet...

I just recently started talking to a girl I've known for several years on FB (she contacted me) and am getting hardcore IOIs and flirting. I guess you could say we have always had a "thing" and there has always been an underlying, yet obvious tension between us but I have never taken her out, kissed her, etc. It seems like she has always had regular boyfriends whom she has gone to school with or whatever.

The problem is, I would really like to pursue the relationship, but I want her to be very aware that I'm not a regular boyfriend or want to be in any kind of exclusive relationship. I would like to hangout, have fun, and am open to seeing where things go. Also, I think any practice I can get with women who I know are interested would be very valuable, because I basically have zero experience (virgin).

The whole relationship is high investment because she lives nearly an hour away...that is why I want to make things clear before we even start seeing each other. What is the best way that I can tell her this w/o sounding shallow and with no confusion?

Please go out with her first before you decide what your intentions are.

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Well technically I have gone out with her many times...just not necessarily on a one-on-one basis. But I guess youre right...I dont know what I was trippin about now.

Sorry I was short on time this morning.

I very much like that you want to be honest with her and that you have a rough idea of what you want. But it's a good idea to make sure that she's bearable before you worry about what you want and how to tell her.

Once you've hung out with her, should you feel the same way, then you are much more easily able to be clear about your intentions.

'I enjoy hanging out with you and I think we have fun. The logistics don't really fit very well but at least we can have fun when we are both free, right? As long as you don't go getting married/a boyfriend/ knocked up *CHEESEY FACE*'

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Fuck her first a few times and don't give off any boyfriend material vibes.

You don't really need to have the "nothing serious" discussion until you've actually had sex like 3 times or so.

As long as you don't see her that often and don't do anything like take her out on classic date like scenarios, you shouldn't accidentally give out the wrong message.

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time is running against you while you guys havent had sex.

after you guys have sex, then time will be working for you

get in there then convey your intentions