I read alot about oneitis and i am one that has it. Its like its a virus.
This weekend me and my oneitis went out to the lake for the day/night for a friend of mines bday. All was good until she got drunk. Ive known this girl for atleast 5yrs. Dated back in high school and became good friends. Well she was flirting and making out with some guys there, and i was drunk enough to tell her how i felt. I told her that she should show me some respect and not do that in front of me. she knows how i feel about her. She cried some and agreed. not even 15 min later shes doing it again and then one of my friends laid into her also. she tried to leave and go home but we live a hour and half away. I wouldnt let her leave she was wasted. I did this at the wrong place and time but i had to do it. Ive wanted to tell her that for a long time just couldnt build up the courage. I guess in this ramble is dont let it get out of hand. Try and control your emotions and if you cant then let it go. Now i gotta get back my game that was really strong until i let her get in my head again. some how figure out our friendship that has been great.

lol so is this a question? you fucked up royally dude. the way to get girls isnt to "tell them how you feel"

IF i were you i would leave it at FAILURE lol

Chalk it up to experience my man and ditch this oneitus..

You gotta cut her loose.. she's gunna do this over and over and over and over and over..

how much pain do you wanna suffer?

Haha, I hate people like you.. No offence but the biggest problems I am having in the field right now is dealing with the chodes who get upset when their "woman" who they just have a boner for, nothing else.. goes for someone else.. I mean if you don't like watching her pick up.. Why be anywhere in the vicinity of where she will/could do it?

Grab your self respect back and move the fuck on mate..

I won't put this as harshly as the previous poster, but I gotta agree he's right. If she isn't showing you the respect you deserve, than move on. However, the old oneitis... we've all been there. Hey, I'm still there now. But it may be that your girlfriend isn't flirting with other guys; you're just so into this girl that everytime she talks to another guy apart from you, your jealousy takes over and you call it flirting. But that's only for you to decide.

Bloodninja.

You don't own this girl. She's free to do what she wants, regardless of your feelings for her. There is no "respect" issue here, only your pathetic jealousy that some other guy can do in 5 minutes what it's taken you 5 YEARS to do - man up and actually make a fucking move.

The way to stop this happening?

BE THAT GUY with tons of other women, so that you never lose your chance again, and you realise how NOT special this one girl actually is.

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I understand what yall are saying. I know telling her how i felt was wrong before i did it. Ive told her a few times before i started getting into pua. I had a breakdown. Shit happens. It is jelousy and i relize that. I did get her out of my head by meeting other women and i was doing great. She got mad at me for not talking and hanging out with her. I just dont want to loose her as a friend if she is. Im getting my head right and gaming this hb that hangs out with my group thia week. Shes showed ioi a few times before. She came out last week when i invited her last week too. Thanks for being straight up with me yall. The truth hurts but its needed. So dont hold back.

You must.

This is not a healthy friendship.

It doesn't have to be forever but it should be until you are ready to be friends, not her. Cut her out for 3-6 months minimum and you will be more successful at the rest of your life.

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The whole "friends" thing with girls doesn't work. There is ALWAYS a motive behind it, from both parts. Ditch the friendship crap and move on. Stop being her shoulder.

The reason these guys are saying you have to cut her loose for 3-6months...is it really takes that long to just give up hope. Even after you cut her loose...initially for weeks and months you will think about her and wonder if she is going to call you, that maybe she'll see the light of day. But she won't. She's probably barely even thinking of you, she's probably out fucking other dudes. It's brutal to think about, and it sucks to be on the receiving end of this bullshit, but yeah...anyone who has oneitits puts themselves in that situation by not manning up earlier and saying what's what. I've done the same thing so I can't claim to be a hero. Try not to beat down on yourself too much...there are a ton of variables that go into the making of an AFC, most of which you had little control over. The important thing is to recognize you are one and work on improving your skills so you don't repeat past mistakes.

Its done. I cant truthfully say it feels good though. Ill be out tonight getting some work in.

Good job,


your now on the right track, no more anger/frustration.. your in complete control.. Feels good!

I was in a similar situation.. I had been totally besotted with this girl for over 6 years, going out with other girls but always leaving them when my oneitus started showing interest in me again.

Well eventually I did make a move and as luck would have it, things happened. Having spent a week or so now going out and spending alot more time with her I'm now wondering what the hell I was thinking !! She's not bright, not much fun, conversationally retarded, and told me sex happens months into any relationship.

I have wasted years of my life for this girl and she's rubbish !! LOL

Don't waste your time on any ONE girl. Find many girls and pick the best. Always have others waiting in the queue.

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