I have been seeing this girl (we have had about 6 dates) and we get on great when we are out. But it's just her texting that is pissing me off. She normally texts me first but she waits anywhere between 2-6 hours to reply. I reply after a couple of hours normally.

She always replies just before bed but last night she was out with her crazy friends who I just don't trust. I didn't get a reply until this morning- a whole 20 odd hours after I text her. I hate to get caught up in this texting thing. It annoys me.

The most clingy I have gotten her is when I just acted really simple with my texts. She asked a question, I answered. She replied within like an hour which is almost instantaneous for her.

So I still haven't replied to her message (6 hours and counting) she sent after a 20 hour wait. What should I do here? I really don't feel like I can be bothered replying full stop. She might get the signal that I'm pissed she took so long to reply and treated me like an after thought.

Again, I apologise in advance of getting caught up in this mess. She has turned it into a freaking texting game and its driving me crazy. I guess if shes trying that its working.

Stop texting her all together. See how she likes that little game. Continue to take her out once a week, and only use the phone (voice) to set up the date.

Wait her out, and see if she says anything about you not replying to her texts. If she asks tell her, "Oh I'm not a big texter. I like to save it for the date.". I set this precedence early on in the relationship so there is no confusion because I don't like to text at all. I've even told girls I've disabled text messaging with my provider.

You're a good number of dates in, and if everything else is going well like you say you've probably got her interest level pretty high which puts you in the control seat.

Don't forget escalation on the date.

Escalation is key to keeping a girl interested

What do you mean by escalation? I think I get what you're meaning just need clarification.

She's really shy in person when it comes to contact. I'm not meaning I'm expecting her to initiate anything but at the moment it is just holding hands and making out. I moved my hand down there on the last date in the middle of a make out session and she asked me what I was doing lol.

stop txting her. simple, girls are always on there phone txting there friends and what not, shes probably playing with you.

By escalation , lookup The Ladder Of Escalation on google. i think its by Vin Dicarlo. itll show a step by step of what it is and how to do it. really simple just dont be afraid to touch her.

No matter what happens, always stay unaffected!

I have a chick that does this to me aswell dude. And I'm actually the one that took her virginity.

Fuck it bro. Don't let it get to you and you don't have to stop texting her. Immature girls play these little games because they think it has some kid of affect on the guy(hence why your making this post). Now your thinking about her more than you should all because she's not texting you when you want it. Do you see how it works? Her games effecting you big time and she's screaming "duh, winning!"

It doesn't bother me really, at time I get annoyed and I just don't respond to her. Other times I write bak in 5-10 mins and others I take hours. The key is to switch it up on her. I kno your probably read somewhere to mirror a chicks texting habbits but don't do it all the time. The next time she does it reply instantly an watch wat happens.

You have to take the lead, your the guy. Make her play your game. Right now your falling into hers

Hope this made sense to ya
Fuze

Yea, it's a classic one... frustrating sometimes... "How was your day?" -> 8 hrs later response...

Like a previous poster said, be unaffected. Don't ask her questions, make statements, that you don't expect txt back.

Or if you wanna play games like she does. Wait for her to ask you question or a txt you should answer and don't answer.

Not sure how the outcome will be on that one... She probably will send more txts...

This.
It's really transparent when a guy goes: "Oh, she waited 6 hours to text me back, I must wait 6 hours to text her back". She's going to notice what you're doing and it just makes you look petty. If you occasionally throw in an instant response, sometimes take a few hours and sometimes don't even bother texting her back, you're conveying that you're unaffected by her and that your time has value - sometimes you're busy, she's not your world.

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Thanks for all the help guys.

I ended up replying but I just made it a quick,short reply without questions. I made it look as if I was replying but not giving her much time.

She replied back quite flirty, a lot quicker and with a long text telling me what she had been doing...yawn.

Next text I replied quite flirty, not too long and then just ended it with "I'm off to bed, night xx".

I agree with what you guys are saying. I think she is playing games. I just wanted some outside input into the matter because I'm sure you guys have experienced it before.

Another thing I'm going to start doing is talking to other women at the same time. I was out for a few drinks with some work buddies last night and met a chick I haven't seen in a while so I'll maybe get out with a drink with her. Not putting all my eggs in one basket idea. I think women have a 6th sense about these things and it drives them crazy when they don't get much attention and they crave it.

what everyone is saying is great advice.

girls love the texting game (be it messages / chat on facebook, or on the phone) they do also spend all day on their damn phones.

switch it up is key, atleast this is what i tend to do:

- as for response times: sometimes instant response, sometimes delayed, sometimes mirrored

- message content: sometimes long, sometimes short and dry, others very flirty etc.

- initiating it: sometimes your typical "hey whats up" and other times, just start off with something completely unexpected like "curious isnt it?" (this will get her intrigued. she will invest time to try and figure out what the hell you're talking about).

- ending it: you should be the one to end it 98% of the time. have her make the last statement, and just dont respond if you're bored. if its on a very positive note, just feed her an excuse like "my friends just dropped in, gotta run".

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doing the aforementioned things i've always had them come back looking for more, this time being complient and making for worthwhile interactions.