So I met this girl in class a month ago... Long story short, we have a lot in common and we always text a lot. I would say we have "some chemistry" going on, but the thing is, she has a bf. IDK if its a shit test or not, but her stories sounds real. She was telling me though that if her bf make another mistake, shes going to break up with him. I also fill up the holes her bf has, ie not going to college fulltime.. Her bf also works a lot and I think they dont talk as much as we do.. BTW, shes not a HB, in fact, shes a shy one and i dont want to game her.. So back the question, how do i know if a girl likes you? (besides the common IOIs)

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You are not "gaming" her? So what are you doing then? From what you wrote it seems to me that you "play" to be her girlfriend. And you are actually lying to her.

From my experience when a girl starts to complain about BF or other guys she is some way involved with, it means I'm "just a friend" and she does not consider me as a potential sexual partner anymore.

What can you do?
Tell her what you feel and don't be ashamed of your feelings!
I usually don't stall it for this long but if it happens I'd say something like: "Look, I love you and I'm not ashamed of my feelings for you! You are a great woman and I don't care what you think about it because I know that you are women for me." or something similar. What is most important is that it must not be said in a needy way.

She must feel that you will pursue her, but not be creepy or needy about it.

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this sounds like you are already in the Friendszone.....

Get out of the friends zone is tough, especially when you have been there for a long time.

Start with kino (smellling hair, holding hands, hands on waist/hips)
Challenge her ('Good you are dating 'x', because I am too dangerous for you'. You wouldn't dare getting involved with me')

Seconded.

Even beyond that, whether or not you are in the "friend zone", she is stringing you along. Saying she's going to break up with her bf is just that... saying. She's not actually doing anything. She doesn't actually want to break up with her bf because that would cause a dramatic change in her life and people don't like change. You may think that dating you would be a better situation, but she's not so sure. If she were, she'd have already broken up with him and be dating you. She's just saying she will because she likes your attention and she wants you to keep it coming, without her having to make an actual commitment. Unless you are active doing something to seperate her from her boyfriend, it's never going to happen. If it does randomly happen, then she's going to need some "space" afterwards, and isn't going to start dating you anyways. You are on a fool's errand. Distance yourself from her for your own sanity.

Ironically, when you distance yourself from her then she'll start to miss your attention and may actually start seeing your value. I had this happen once, and she came crawling back to me after I broke off all contact. By that time, however, I had realized how awful of a person she was, and simply told her that I was no longer interested and wasn't sure we ever had that much in common in the first place. In the end, I was really just infatuated with the challenge.

There are plenty of things you can do to get a woman to forget about her boyfriend, but simply "being there" is not one of them. That's very AFC. You're basically her girlfriend. You might as well eat ice cream with her when he breaks up with her, because that's the only way it's going to end.

Not sure if its relevant, but a girl who cheats on her bf is never LTR material. If she did it once, she'll do it again. A girl who cheats on her bf is only good for the fuck. Don't fool yourself into thinking that there is more.

Thanks for the OPs guys!

Maybe I should do this to her then: 1-vt80917.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

lol

EDIT: Joking aside, you guys are right. I need to do something about it...

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