Friends.. I've been there a million times.. where I just wanted to get laid!!


God, it seems like half my life I just wanted to get laid. But I've been dating a woman the past month.. and we've had a real connection.. a social connection, we've loved just spending time together... and maybe even there's love...

but for a bunch of complex reasons, we may be breaking up or going our separate ways... So today was very tough!

After feeling somewhat heartbroken today another girl I use to have sex with called me and really wanted to do something. I went out with her but all I could think about was the girl I have had that real connection with!! the girl on the date let me touch her breasts, kiss her, everything, and it meant absolutely nothing!! Nothing!!

All I wanted was the girl I connect with back. so I'd felt heartbroken...

Feeling heartbroken on some level is so powerful. god you can laugh all you want but those who have experienced it know that few things are more delicate..

So it got me thinking.. when you can be heartbroken over any random girl you connect with and have intimacy with, it really got me thinking!!!

How do I win in this game??? What is my goal?? what am I doing it for!!!??

Do I avoid heartbreak?? Do I enter a bunch of relationships over time while trying to make them have as many awesome moments through my lifetime? Do I just avoid getting emotionally involved as it serves no purpose?? Or do I just simply date and go through hell to eventually find that "right" one that I can share my life with.....

What is the point to it all friends..? I use to think getting laid but after strong emotional connection, getting laid with others doesn't seem to hold a candle.. and as I seem to constantly have married woman hitting on me, it makes me question the value of connection once 2 people have lived together for a while...


So why are we doing all this??!!! What's the freakin point?? How do we win!!??


What are your thoughts on this???

If women have been married for more than 5 years then their husbands are not the same people they married. Most are lazy and unkempt. Without an argument over the morality of such, it's easy game.

Heartbroken is just a state of mind. It's almost it's own emotion. You can't really cover it up by going on a date. But like everything in your head, you are the manager.

I think most people's goals here boil down to a need/desire for control.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

Ya. this girl wasn't married. though I did have to deal with that several months ago with another woman. the girl I'm dealing with has a son in a different state and was over hear visiting family. I know she was dating someone back home before leaving.. I think she felt connected to me and possibly cut it off in fear of what was happening. that's why I am heartbroken..

Maybe I do have that need desire for control. I just want the highest likelihood of happiness with the least likelihood of pain.. I'm trying to understand this stuff to protect myself.. In the process I ask myself what the point is of ever opening up your feelings...

I know dude,it sucks. You deal with these constant supply of women who royally fuck you up and at the end of it all your wondering if you should check yourself into a looney bin.

As for heartbreak, I realized along time ago that some women are just not fucking worth it. You broke up,she didnt know a good thing when she saw it.......FUCK HER!

As for how do we win.............fuck if I know. I subscribe to the karma theory however. I believe that one day Ill get exactly what i deserve,its basically what gets me out of bed in the morning.

Hope this helps,sorry if it doesnt.