Ive had sex with 15 different girls this year and I havent bothered to really see any again after the first time.

They always text me for the next couple of weeks but I lose all interest and couldnt care less if I saw them again.

Why have none of these girls gained my interest for relationship material?

Is it because theres no chase and I just lose interest?

Im over the sex and wouldnt mind a relationship now.

Interesting...

So in your opinion, are sex and relationships mutually exclusive?

Only when you get married.

naaaaaaaa but I want that connection with someone. not just sex. I know you can create alot of emotional connection through sex. but I want that connection first, then sex as a bonus.

How do I make this connection without losing the girl...

my methods always been to go straight for the kill and get laid in the same night

Love takes time. There's no shortcuts like there is for sex.

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Take her out to dinner, buy her stuff, etc. You know - the usual, boring courtship routine. That way she'll put you in the provider category and hold back sex for as long as possible while you prove yourself to her.

Seriously though, just keep doing what has been getting you laid. However, Instead of texting for a couple weeks and then dropping them, actually meet up again so you have a chance to get to know them before rejecting them.

You're much better off transitioning from seducer to boyfriend than going for boyfriend right off the bat.

As far as why you are loosing interest, without knowing you it's all just speculation - although I don't think it is "lack of chase."

Are you judging these girls? Do you consider them sluts for sleeping with you right away?

Are you embarrassed to let your friends see you with them? "Fat chicks are like mopeds - fun to ride - just don't let you friends catch you on one."

Are you afraid of not being able to live up to your initial impression if you see them again?

Or, at the risk of getting too psychoanalytical, are you worried that no one could love the real you and your loosing interest is a way of protecting yourself from letting women get close enough to hurt you?

Whatever it is, loosing interest sounds like an excuse for something else.

I was in a similar situation. There is nothing you can really do about it. If you find a connection with one of these girls that you have sex with, then follow up on it. Other than that, there isn't much you can do.

kevin?? "Take her out to dinner, buy her stuff, etc. You know - the usual, boring courtship routine. That way she'll put you in the provider category and hold back sex for as long as possible while you prove yourself to her. "



dont be that kind of guy. who buys stuff and flowers on every date, who pays for dinners and stuff, this get way to boring and KILLS the dynamic.

do this kind of stuff once every 10 dates, thats more interesting.

lets say you always choose where you two go,
once every 10 dates, ask her where SHE wana go today, she will be amazed.

besides that, i passed through a stage where i wanted a relationship and not just sex, but after a while, you will go back to your origins ! haha !

Hey,

Maybe you're always opening the same type of girls (party girls in clubs?) and they are just not the type that "does it" to you? Maybe your game is a very specific one and works only on one type of girls? Think about it... maybe I'm completely off but it might something to look into.

Yeah, that was a joke, which is why I followed it up with "Seriously..."

haha, alright bro,

i took it very personally, i couldn't perceive it as a joke
its harsh and wussy

you may be right.. gonna have to broaden my horizons a bit

By stop doing this:

Mutual experiences, bonding activities etc Do activities that require you to work together. Rock climbing is a good one, you belay her, she belays you. You each put a level of trust in each other as your safety depends on the other person. Encouragement can also overcome fears (if either of you are scared of heights) and you may find yourself pushing yourself harder and reaching the top on the more difficult walls (assuming you arent a pro already)

watch 'spread', you need to come across a girl like her.