I've been reading material and following courses by many coaches. But I tend to jump into relationships as soon as I have a chance. I've been lucky and I only have to "Game" one girl and we'll start to date. (this lowers my skills because I have a hard time taking my focus off one girl and get more numbers/dates before I see how the current one turns out...

Currently I've done the same thing with my beautiful girlfriend. But I've made a mistake (threatening a breakup) over something I wasn't happy with in our relationship.

Following the rules of the relationship section...

Girlfriend:

My girl is an 8 in looks 11 in personality. She is short, with a body that is smoking and a face that is adorable. She is a huge flirt and tease, but aims it all towards me. We have a great time anywhere we go together, flirting, joking, teasing. She's amazing in bed, a good girl, and slightly shy which is a huge turn on.

Situation:

Her and I have been dating for almost 5 months now. At first the sex was great, she certainly enjoyed it and we talked about every place/time we wanted to try next... up until 2 months ago. She suddenly had one excuse after another. I was understanding at first. (ok, she's sick, or on her period or too tired or w/e) but after a couple weeks of no sex, I confronted her. I was worried about the lack of sex and figured it was something I did/was doing wrong. She told me she had a bad experience once and it's been on her mind lately. (when she lost her virginity the guy was too rough and hurt her. She told me it wasn't anything about me, it was all her. After a couple more weeks without sex, I confronted her again. This time I was angry. I had convinced myself that it had to be something about me. I told her that I had needs that weren't being met and I wanted to fix that. She started crying and told me that when she was young one of her uncles molested her. She recently found out that he had gotten out of jail (multiple charges) and was now married and might be living in our town. I tried to be understanding but I still wanted the sex to return. After talking a while about her not being able to give that to me right now and not knowing when or if she would be able to again, I told her I'll wait as long as I can but I can't wait forever.

Problem:

She was furious with the last comment I made. Essentially boiling it all down to "if you don't have sex with me I don't want to be with you."

I've apologized and pretty much made myself her bitch, at her beck and call... my plans can be changed instantly to hers because I'm terrified I'll lose her. I feel like an asshole and am losing my confidence daily, i can feel it. I know I'm not being attractive at all anymore, I've bought her gifts (not expensive just flowers and chocolates) I try to spend as much time as I can with her in the hopes that it will push us back to where we were before the fight. And that we can then work through the whole not wanting to have sex thing.

My Efforts::

I've tried to pretend nothing ever happened and act like I used to, minus being at all sexual. I've tried to give her more space, I hang out with my friends more if she doesn't answer a call or text. I don't send more than a couple texts (she usually responds, and if she doesn't to more than 1 or 2, I don't send another until the next day or two.

I feel like I need to make myself more attractive to her, but don't know how I can at this point... Anything sexual might bring back the bad feelings, and teasing/ball busting would probably not be beneficial. I feel like I've dug myself into a hole and can't even begin to climb out of.

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Yeah, said that once too, and am never saying it again LOL.

Just don't spend too much time with her man. Why would she want to be with you if you're with her all the time? Women want what they can't get or what is valuable.

And don't get all AFC on her like saying that you're losing confidence. YOURE A MAN.
Act like one.

If you said something BAD, you can apologize, but don't go to far. Just have a good time with her, tease her and try to talk more about sex or sexual things. A better way to get more sex .
I, though, want to know if people here know more ways to let her think about sex/make her want sex with you...?

Gunwitch method explains the sexual vibing/framing, but they require much reading...

Thanks for the response.

I remembered reading or hearing something from the PuA community never to threaten a breakup to get your way (remembered right after I said it actually)

If/when we break up I'll certainly remember for the next girls, haha.

I want to return to sexual talk/ suggestions/ innuendos with her, but I worry that it will make painful memories return to her... does anyone have any ideas on how I should go about re-introducing sexuality into our relationship?

When we started dating I neg'd her and teased her and (obviously it worked in the beginning) but since the sex stopped and the fight, for some reason I stopped that. I obviously should start doing what worked before (if it's not broke why change it). I'm wondering what kind of negs are good for a girl I know well? "That dress is really cute, did you get it at wall-mart?" just doesn't sound right after I've known her for 5 months.. then again might it be exactly what I need to say?

I really don't know the connection between you guys, but in my situation I would yell:
"Fatass, get over here!" and she would respond by saying:"Fuck u, gayboy". Then you can tickle her or whatever and you kiss her.

Think you shouldn't use neg's that you use for cold approaches, because you're a step further than that. Ofcourse you should keep negging her, but in a way that you're both comfortable with.

And about the sex-talk, Gunwitch method will help you longtime.