so i met my oneitis today at uni (after a year of not approaching her in class) i randomly added her on facebook over easter holiday. girl is super hot and high value, i am obv not as high value in superficial social circle value/ university system.

i told myself id play it cool, ended up typical 1itis response i just said some muddled shit and didnt really offer much, i was shti scared, told her good luck with her exams and smiled a lot. she was goin to the library.

figured fuck it, followed it up on fb chat with her, asked her how the library session was, she was super friendly said she was scared about exams and she doesnt like our teacher, i told her that she probs thinks shes arrogant (neg) then wen she replied said not really , she said i believed u, i said haha. then she didnt say fuck all for ages (shit test). i failed it by not replying either...for like nearly an hour, then i said so wens ur exam, she said tomorrow...then she logged off straight away (dhv?)

i realise this is lame analysing online stuff, i know next time i need to be UNREACTIVE and have a strong frame. i think itll be less scary next time i see her, does ur 1itis get easier to act around after the first time? its hard to not go for rapport considerin how much i like this girl, am i on the right track, wat should i try to convey when i see her next: on my path, unreactive, not chasing her but at same time playful and fun? seems difficult

what u guys think, why did she play the internet games ?

I'm not sure if that was as much of a neg as it was an insult. The fact that she didn't reply wasn't a shit test asyou might have thought it to be.

Truthfully, from what I have gathered you have not created any type of conection here as of yet. Negs usually are playfull and will evoke more emotion than I think you did.

Shit tests (this could have been a very week one) are used to weed out unworthy prey. In this case I don't think she had anything to say and you didn't give her a reason to keep talking. Might want to do a little more reading and practicing on targets other than your oneitis. That way you can see if you are able to evoke emotion from someone you are not blinded by. Once you can start getting regular girls to be attracted to you and have fun with it then you can start to up your game to girls that usually oneitis you. Otherwise you will be dominated and get discouraged. Sorry brother just saying what I observed. I struggle too from time to time but I know I'm pretty good most of the time.

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Listen man, what you're doing has absolutely no point to it. You seem lost..fresh off the boat too I may add. So I'm going to point you in the right direction. First off, don't neg the girl anymore..forget that bullshit. What you need to do, is go straight into seductive/sexual mode. Don't try and make her laugh that man..she's not going to give you some pussy for that. Now at this point, you're probably thinking, "What the hell, he said pussy. I don't want her pussy, I want her to like me." That's the wrong of thinking man. You see, you have to go after every girl out there like you want to fuck them. In exchange, they will give you the affection (feelings for you) that you want so bad. The best example I can use is a romance movie where the guy sets his eyes on a girl he likes, goes after her, gets rejected. Tries again and again (without getting sad/mad/reacting to her rejection) and ends up finally getting her. Now the guy doesn't go after her like he wants her affection, he goes after her as a sexual being. The same exact shit applies to real life.

Next time you see her, just stand there and tilt your head..gaze into her eyes..She'll say something, but who gives a shit what she says. Reach for her hand while you're saying, "Let me see your hand" and spin her around above her head as if you're checking her whole body out and say, "....You look pretty today." with a smile on your face. No need to spray cocky & funny crap and stuff like that man. Just SIMPLY touching her/spinning her, etc. demonstrates the highest level confidence there is which NO jock man of the university would do. You don't need no "high value" or anything. Just escalate. If she rejects you grabbing her hand then say, "Trust me, I just want to show you something neat." Get my drift?

Attraction..and love..are BLIND to everything else except you SHOWING that you like/want her. Do you understand that? Don't matter what you run..how much money you got..what kind of car you drive, nothing.

ookay maybe i just insulted her so she logged off when i tried reinitiate, so next time i see her how do i get back on track? im gonna carry on approaching but SPAM thats all it is.

iam just off the boat, ive done a few approaches and can make girls feel comfortable enough but have NO clue about mid game, whats the best way to practice invoking good emotions in girls, bear in mind iam approaching on campus mainly?

thanks for the responses so far guys

Don't focus on what emotions you want after the girl, what are you..a clown? A circus performer? Oprah Winfrey? What is your TARGET. The objective is to focus on getting the girl instead, not what emotions you manage to get out of her.

And approaching is the easiest thing in the world. Forget opinions, forget everything. Focus 100% on being honest when you approach. The first thing that comes to your mind when you see that girl walking towards you is, "She's pretty and her dress matches the color of the flowers over there." Therefore, you're approach for that girl wouldn't be, "Hey, I need your opinion. Is it better to hang sharks up on my wall or footballs?" Instead, you would approach her with, "You look cute and your dress matches the color of the flowers over there so I just wanted to talk to you." Simple and direct. And believe me, most guys these days aren't anywhere close to being simple and direct.

Do to her exactly what I told you to do in my last post. Forget texting/messaging her for now.

my inner game aint that good mate i need to be eased into this stuff, shouldnt have tried "gaming" the 1itis. from now on ill try to be direct bt judging from how i feel in field i doubt its gonna appear congruent.

Ok I know what you mean. When you pull all of this off, I want you to have the attitude of "You're right in front of me and I wanna fuck you." 90% of these guys get horny for the girls they like when they aren't with her and when they're with her they're flacid as shit. It doesn't make sense. If the girl is in front of you as opposed to thinking of her at home and jacking off to her, why wouldn't you get even more horny; something is wrong with the system here.

Do you know how the confidence you have when you beat off to some hot girl on the internet? Now what if that same hot girl walked in on you..would you run away fast or go with the flow..

So when you meet this chick again, have that confidence from when you're in the middle of beating off to a girl.

I agree but disagree at the same time. THere is a level of class involved with gaming a girl and being conguent is key. Chris may have a natural way of coming straight out and being sexual. I too at times like to let someone I know I'm interested right from the bat but to minimize C&F, Negs is bullshit. I would imagine Chris uses them in his naural game, tone of voice, body language etc. While his game may be more direct than others for someone that is a novice I would test some things that work naturally for you and find out things that don't and then calibrate.

Screen the advice you get from here and apply what works best for you.

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You didnt approach her for a year, you randomly added her on fb and claim you really like her. How well do you actually know her?

lets face it im a noob so probably best to throw the BS out the window, in the short term with the 1itis i gotta build some connection, if i get a chance i just gotta plant new impressions of me onto her and fast. offer value and make her al the better for having interacted with me, still cant believe i thought that was a neg, frustrating as hell.