One of the general advice I received here was to win a whole social circle over because it portrays an alpha male frame and also makes people talk about you positively.

I have the tendency to completely dominate house parties and social groups in a very natural way. People often come to me when they want to seek acceptance... it is a bit sad.


This, however, came costly to me lately: I like this girl. She is an HB 9.5 and we we're in that middle ground of ambiguity and cocky friendly jokey relations. She is often speaking to me and she LOVES to have me around (always asking to go clubbing with me). Thing is i ve known her and her friends for 8 months and I was in a long distance relationship the entire time with another girl. I became quite close with one of her girlfriends (HB 6/7) with the pure intention of being friends. This girl is completely in love with me now even though I have established the "friend" grounds. How can I go around this situation? I want the HB 9.5 but I can t do that if she knows that her friend is into me.

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Definitely a tricky one. I've experienced this in the past as well, that's why I try to not become close friends with the hot chick's besties, even if they aren't interested at first, jealousy can make them bitchy.

If I were you I'd continue gaming the 9.5 girl, and in a little while make a move. Just act as you have been and don't think about her friend.

As for the other girl, make clever but spot-on allusions that you guys are friends. For instance, tell her (if she's single) that you are going to hook her up with a friend of yours. Then, she'll probably say "oh ok", tell her that in exchange she needs to "give you intel on the 9.5".
The goal here is obviously not to get intel on that girl, you don't need any, and she'll probably not give you anyways. The goal is to set the boundaries. Show her that your intentions towards her are friendly, and that the ones you have towards the 9.5 girl are sexual.

I've done this before, but I did it without knowing the 6/7 chick was interested. Later on I dated the 9.5 girl and she told me the "story behind the curtains" and how the 6/7 chick called her crying and said she was a bitch, that she was flirting with me (she said loads of awful stuff to her) while she knew she was interested. She then MADE the 9.5 chick text me something like "we can't see each other anymore".
I thought it was fishy and didn't give up. Either way, they where friends after when we were dating.

Just make sure that 9.5 chick is addicted enough to you not to drop the ball if the other girl calls dibs on you..

CW