I will have to say I'm coming off some of the most piss pore gaming I have done in a while. If you want to know why in much more detail take a look at some of my more recent posts. A brief look:

Met an HB10+ that was new to the city and didn't know anyone.

Went out a few times ans acted AFC like because of intimidation about her beauty (Depite the fact I have been with just as hot chicks)

Tried to run things through atraction, commfort etc.

Didn't get anyware!!! Maybe low levels of attraction and some slight comfort but nothing to be writing books about. (did some push-pull, negs, all of it but nothin)

Caught a case of Oneitis thinking I'm going to land this chick (Huge Problem)

Tried to break comfort act as more of my normal self with a bit of resistance to stay in comfort zone in fear of LJBF

Was playing it cool with some contact, easy light but NO escalation. It's like I was the 1st person she met and therefor why not hang with me. (Fucked my shit up, fell into chase method w/ as much resistance as I could) Didn't get any real IOD's but NO IOI's either.

I decide to try and step it up with an IOI myself. Sent what I though was a fun and playful text.

"I don't know what u r doing in there, but "hi". Now can you get out of my head, I need to get some work done here today."

I get NO responce for 18 hours and am like WTF!

Then don't control my urges and send the lamest of texts I think I've ever sent to anyone (After looking back)

"Let me guess, the performance review didn't go so well, lost you job and have to move back"

WTF! Right!!! and still no responce. Think about what I had text and was like WOW that was negative. That is some really horrible and lame shit. So I decide to text...

"I hope that's not the case and everythings going good"

Get frustrated and wonder why I even sent that. It's like I didn't have control of myself. and still nothin.

I hate the feeling of having NO CONTROL and acting like an complete AFC. I know what I was doing wrong and I was trying to PLAY THE GAME. but one crucial thing I forgot is you need to be yourself. I have been ALPHA like in the past and more than often in recent years. Every now and then though the old AFC shows up because some stunning beauty puts a trance on you.

I'm not arguing the fact that these social dynamics we study don't work. They DO!. I have incorporated a lot of them into my life and have met, slept with, and had a lot of fun. I'm just saying though that the main thing that you need to do is BE YOURSELF. Your not going to get them all. There are plenty of women that may just not have interest. In this case I new she came from a break-up and was looking for basic friend companionship for now because she is in a lonely new city.

Sometime when I'm getting completly dominated but have attraction for a female I loose all control. I can't trust myself with my phone or the garbage that spews out of my mouth when this happens. It's been well over a year and a half since the last episode. To make sure I didn't do anything even more stupid I deleted her number and txts to make sure I wouldn't dig myself an even deeper grave and try to save as much face as possible.

If your reading this and have ever posted anything I have responded to please disregard my advice as I have reverted back to an AFC as of now and any previous credentials I may have had have all slipped away.

Now I guess it's time to put the hiking boots back on, change my state of mind, and start hiking up that fucking mountain to rebuild the self-esteam I have thrown away over the last to weeks. Lets get back to being an alpha male.

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Sounds like you may be a human being like the rest of us. Sucks don't it. Wish we could all really be PUA gods, but we're not. We're humans. And sometimes we fuck up. All we can do is learn from it and move forward. Hope you feel better about this in the future. And I wish you lots of luck.

everyone messes up don't worry, even those that are good at being PUAs will lose one eventually. When you first start up you shouldn't beat yourself up about things like that being PUA means that you have to confidence to take rejection in stride like nothing happened.

Be yourself but not in an AFC kind of way, you want to express yourself and not fear of the consequences (because that means you are OVER thinking things..). If a girl hates you for being honest let her hate you, its better than her thinking you are her personal emotional pillow and you suffering over periods of time for it.

Don't be discouraged you just have to keep going forward with your training, if a girl doesn't answer your text the first time don't text her again. You have to establish multiple threads to girls so that your mind doesn't just think of ONE girl.

Reminds me of what happened to me, I met a lovely girl shortly after starting learning about game (a pole-dancer!), I thought hey this is great, fuck game I don't need that anymore I have a great girlfriend now!

I lost her a few days later because I went totally AFC on her, calling her up to talk and then saying stupid things like "we should talk more often", complimenting her over & over, thinking she's too sweet and good for me to try to escalate sexually, etc. Plus a lot of other stupid stuff I won't admit to doing at this time.

It's OK though. It's only through these sort of painful experiences that we truly learn. Make a list of all the mistakes you made, vow not to make them again, and you'll soon find that the emotional pain you're going through now will work to your advantage in the future, because you have a very strong reason not to make these same mistakes again. Worked for me.

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"I'd tell her to go shove her face in the pig pen, and go out and find another one who'll kiss you without askin for the earth. You're bound to find one. You can hardly throw half a brick back in the lands you come from without hittin one."
Stardust

getting smooth with women is learn through practice, just like pretty much a lot of things in life.

Thanks fellas! I bounce back pretty easily so I'm not worried about it. My competative & thrill seeking sides have takent the biggest hit on this one. That's a lot easier to overcomb. Just need t get back out there

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