| This is a field report with two interesting ideas at the end, but as I just joined, I can't post in the right place. You can skip to the ideas in bold below if you want.
Saturday I was at a strip club with two girl friends and one guy. Before reading anything about game, if I went to a strip club, I'd assume pulling a stripper was impossible, and I'd act accordingly -- "I'm happy to give you all my money, but I know it's bullshit..:)" But Saturday I acted like, "Of course it possible!"
I come in, smile big, walk slow to a table with my friends, pretend not to notice any of the girls, then go to the bar to get us drinks. As soon as I'm at the bar a lovely stripper in a group of strippers talks to me. (I'm guessing you'd call her an HB8 with no make-up. Does she gain points with make-up and being a very good stripper?)
I talk to her over my shoulder, smiling of course, but giving most of my eyes to the older female bartender. The stripper offers to help me bring the drinks to my table. I accept.
She stays. We flirt. I assume it's totally possible. We talk for an hour. I neg. I spin away now and then and talk to her over my shoulder. I praise my friends. She keeps trying to get my attention by being really slutty, but I don't look at her boobs more than twice. Tons of kino; she gives me slutty kino, but I only return non-slutty kino. I mirror her verbally; she says she's gay and I'm wasting my time; I say I'm gay, so no problem. She talks about me buying champagne. I say I don't like the stuff, but does she want some? She says yes, and I'm lucky enough to make a lot of money right now, so I buy. It's *fucking* expensive. But I genuinely think, "Fuck it. This will be worth it one way or the other. She'll either be impressed by money, or I'll learn not to do it again."
She takes the stage, and I get the majority of attention. She comes back. We continue everything.
I put my number in her phone. I point to my cheek and she kisses. I leave.
She calls me not the next day, but the day after. We go on a date the day after that. It's awesome. I give her a side-mouth kiss at first sight, saying I owe her for kissing me. I keep the game stuff up, but maybe it's got nothing to do with the game stuff. Maybe we're genuinely drawn to each other. Who knows.
We kiss on the side of the mouth a bunch. I walk her to work. (She begins at 10.)
Time to say goodbye, and I assume it's also time for make-out. But she turns ... slightly..:) More side-mouth kissing. Three times.
I finally say, "Okay. Bye. Call me ... maybe..:)" She laughs and echos, "Maybe..:)"
I leave.
I think of texting her on my way home, and after getting home. But I decide not to. I decide not to contact her at all, though I would love to make her my lady-girl..:)
It's now been 24 hours since. And I'm sticking to not contacting her. I figure she knows I'm interested, and it's now up to her to contact me. And if she doesn't, life goes on -- and I now know I can pull a stripper..:)
Idea #1: never propose a second date
I left it open-ended, and I don't plan to propose a second meeting. I'm waiting for her to, because she's not stupid -- she knows I'm interested..:) She also must get hit on all the time. And aren't we supposed to see ourselves as the prize?
Idea #2: suggestions for ending the date
I ended it with three side-mouth kisses, and saying, "Call me, or something. Maybe..:)" It was unplanned. But upon review, I think the following would be smoother:
"This was nice. I'll let you call me if you want..:)"
"I had a good time. I guess you can call me..:)"
And going back to Idea #1, never, ever, ask, "Should we do this again?"
Thoughts?
-Traffic
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