Its kinda frustrating. I love women and I love to have them in my life however I hate letting them go or them breaking up with me (not usually the case).

I have been doing the PUA thing for about 4 months after a 4 year marriage and since a lot of good things have happened in my life overall. But I dont consider myself a player, Im always straigh foward with women and try not to lie at all cost.

I cant sarge all the time due to work plus I have other things to do besides work. It sucks when I dont have time to go out sarging that often and end up braking up with the girls I have cause I care about them I truly do. However I promised myself that I would stay single. I dont wanna be one of those guys that gets divorced and re-married right away.

Breaking up with girls always affects me too much, even if I dont care about them as much. Everytime this happens I cant concentrate or think about anyone else even when I have other girls texting me. This is happening right now just ended something w a girl cause she was getting to attached.

Any ideas on how to deal with this? Btw Im in a super small twon and eventhough I pick up girls its kinda hard cause everyone know everyone. So I cant just go and have sex w 10 girls or whatever...

Are you not allowed to talk to people when you're at work or doing other things?

If you're constantly having to break up with girls and it's that affective then you are a) probably not being as straight forward as you think you are; b) not managing your interactions with these girls well enough.

Promising yourself you will stay single, trying to avoid being 'one of those guys' are fairly limiting beliefs, in my opinion. Open up to life.

Regarding the small town thing; if you're in the Western hemisphere then you can't be that far away from a large city which can likewise accomodate things you have to do?

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TO tell you the truth I stopped getting phone numbers from girls unless I really like them and Im looking at dating them. Otherwise a nice chat and maybe plans to meet somewhere or whatever.

Work doesnt really work cause I work with the same people for the last four years and theres one female in the whole building lol. Eitehr way when Im out I do talk to people.

You may be right, Maybe I am lying to myself in regards to what I want, maybe thats why it affects me so much.

As for the limiting belief... true again, but girls always see me as bf/hubby material which is kind of annoying lol

Dunno maybe I do want a relationship, nothing to serious though. Meh lol my closest city worth doing anything is Fargo and thats 5 hours away so im prettymuch screwed lol

Thx for the reply
janzi