Hello forum

First off, I am a new member, first post. I recently got into the art of pick-up. Just finished THE MYSTERY METHOD... and i loved it. It really works!

Heres my problem: i met a girl at a rave thru mutual friends and who is a solid 9! the most gorgeous girl i have ever seen. Used some of the tricks that i learned from the book and it worked great. We hit it off, got a hotel room did our thing. (my first one night stand ever). Later that week, we met a few more times, went on dates and ended up at her place and did our thing again. In total of 3 sexual encounter. i kno i kno, Everything was really in a rush... we only known each other for a week!

about the girl: she is a Young party girl still in college. painfully shy, loves to go out. never been in a relationship (boyfriend girlfriend). but had 5 different partners. loves to be intoxicated. not an ideal girlfriend type in my eyes.

A week later we went to a party she mentioned not wanting to waste each others time and start seeing other people. BUUT we ended up making out and ending at her place the next day. (soo confusing) She is giving me cold shoulders, ignored my texts. (she doesnt like to talk on the phone.) 98% of the time i would be the one texting her and she would respond with one word, close end answer, and not responding at all. (last time i texted her was good nite with no response)

I do feel as im the one who is chasing and begging for her since im the one consistently texting her. The book did mention not to do that. I am suppose to see her this Sat at a club thru mutual friends, not because we invited each other.

questions:
1. is there hope hooking up with this girl again?
2 the book metioned kissing and sex is the biggest investment into a guy, buy why did she lose interested after she invested into me?
3. what kind of approach should i use when i see her this sat? i am planning to engage her with a smile and confidence keep talking in minimal. but also play hard to get, and talk to her friends and my friend most of the night, shows I can work the crowd and have fun.
4. any advice?

fyi i do care about this girl a lot.

Please help!

she is a party girl

she likes to be intoxicated

she has never been in a real relationship

she has had five sexual partners

she fucks you without really knowing you

she then fucks you multiple more times

she then blows you off

she then fucks you again

she then says it's a waste of time and recommends seeing other people

she fucks you again

now she has gone cold?

seems like a pretty open-and-shut case of "this girl does not want a relationship" and the more you pursue it, the further you are going to push her away. you should really just back off, tell her it's totally cool, and to call you when she needs a bootie call.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

haha i love you summarized it! thats pretty much what it is! i guess since its my first "booty call" i really didnt know how to handle this situation. i didnt know either to be intimate or TRY to look at it as it a fling.

Either way, GREAT ADVICE! I was thinking the exact same thing. So you think I should just simply put the "ball on her court" and wait for her to call me for booty call. Orrr you think theres a chance that i can GAME her some more?

ask some of the good PUA's around here about how to set up a friends with benefits
situation

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

since im new, not too sure how to navigate this site. can you please point me the right way. thanks a bunch!

search the forum lots of friends with benefits posts

Actually you need to start looking up oneitis. You are showing some of the first signs and symptoms of it.

You are getting hung up and pursuing this chick even though you yourself said she isn't girlfriend material..not good.

If she isn't girlfriend material then you do not pursue or continue to invest in her. If you have absolutely nothing or noone else better to do and she comes along and offers her pontaang that's one thing but for you to be spending time and energy pursuing it when you know she is not relationship material then you are just an AFC out begging for table scraps that some skanky ho is throwing down.

3 options.

- 4get her, move on and go fuck 10 other chicks.

- bang her when she shows up at your place and she is the one that does the pursuing but in the mean time be fucking 10 other chicks.

- Go aheand and go full-AFC and decide you like this gal and want an ongoing relationship with her and pursue her and put the rest of your life on hold and have her eventually break your heart because she is a skanky, drunken party girl and you just have the hots for her because she is throwing you table scraps.

Hmmm, which one to pick?????

you are sooo right. i am truly head over heels over this girl... simply because she my first f-buddy ever! you are right about me being "oneitis" (i have to google to look up the definition lol). i need see her as a another girl on my list and nothing more. GREAT ADVICE!