| I hope people here can give me some feedback and advice. I've never been aware of the PUA society until recently and I find it quite fascinating, and I've never been good with women. Anyways, half a year ago I started chatting with this girl whom I know from before cause I've known her older sister for ages. We hit off well quite instantly, but she had a boyfriend at the time, but things weren't going to well between them. Things between us escalated and we spent hours on the phone every day(we live very far from each other). Eventually she broke up with her boyfriend. We continued talking, and it often became quite sexual.
As I said, she lives quite far from where I live, making things quite difficult. I travelled to where she lives not long after we had started talking. This was not to see her, but to attend a birthday in my family. I got the chance to meet her twice, and we made out, but nothing more due to logistics. After that we spoke a lot on the phone, and started planning for her to come see me, but she always bailed out in the last second. She lived with her bf for quite some time after they broke up, but I'm pretty sure nothing happened between them as he was more into her than she was. She was quite uncomfortable living there, but she managed to get another place to stay. We were both quite excited about christmas, and to see each other. I travelled to my folks for christmas, but then she seemed reluctant to see me. Eventually we met up, but she showed very little interest in me. I spoke to her, but I didn't get angry at her, but I probably showed too much vulnerability towards her. I decided to not talk to her for some time, and I avoided sending her sms's or making phone calls. Instead I sat down trying to figure out where I went wrong, and came across the PUA society.
After this I've read everything I came across, from forums to books, and I actively started thinking about what I should do and why in relation to women. I started applying this to this girl, and I changed my mindset to it all, and started approaching it with more humour and fun. The reason why she liked me in the first place is cause she thought I'm hilarious and a person who has dreams of seeing the world(and actually getting it done), and she also thinks I'm looking good. I did a lot of things right without even knowing it or how..
Recently I have started applying a more fun approach to her in my sms's and phone calls. She has responded well, but I'm not too confident that I have her hooked. She asked me if i want to go with her on a holiday this summer, and I responded positively, but she hasn't mentioned in since. I know for a fact she might not be able to due to work obligations. When I speak to her on the phone we always have a laugh, and the last time we talked I all of a sudden ended the conversation cause I had to go somewhere, even though we were having such a great time talking. She reacted with a "have we finished talking already?" I simply said "Yes, I gotta go". She was a bit annoyed, but i laughed it away saying I'll talk to her later. I noticed a she was a bit more eager to talk to me afterwards. The other day she had called me a couple of times in the middle of the night while she was drunk.
I know I do mistakes from time to time, but at least I think my "game" is improving. I'm trying to keep my head busy with other women, and I have gotten good response from another chick I fancy.
There is more to this "story" than I've written, but it's already long enough. I hope someone has any good ideas on what I should do next. I've never had a woman this hooked on me - it seemed like I was some kind of drug she could never get enough of, and that was all through talking to her.. I must admit I was hooked on her too, and I was quite pissed off messing it up.
Pardon my language, but english is not my mother tongue:) Hope people have some good ideas.
Dan
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