Firstly, I'd like to thank everyone in advance for your advice. I had been talking to this girl everyday and I thought we were naturally connecting really well - she would text or call me as soon as she woke up, throughout the day, and before she went to bed for a couple of weeks. Last night, we hung out and went bar and party hopping. I thought it was going to be a done deal, but the kino escalation wasn't going particularly well. She wouldn't pull away from kino, but she in no way reciprocated it so I got stuck at a really basic level. Well, after she went home, I made the huge mistake of texting her that I liked her and I got LJBF'd. She then called me and I just brushed it off and talked to her for 5 minutes about rubbish and then said I had to go to bed.

Here is my question, I know that I should ignore her, but to what extent? Normally I always have SPAM on and she messages me first thing in the morning. To ignore her, I turned my SPAM off. Then this afternoon she messaged me an inside joke and then asked if I was still alive. I haven't responded and don't plan to. Tomorrow I have to turn SPAM back on for business, so if she messages me, what should I do?

I should also say that I am 28 year old Californian living in Switzerland and since I speak the language, I often have girls hitting on me because of my accent, which she has seen. She also has seen that a couple of my ex's, both HB9s, are still really into me so I assume that my pre-selection value is pretty high. With all that said, I really think that this girl is perfect, but I am of course willing to walk on and I set up a date with one of my ex's on my facebook wall where should could see it. Any more suggestions or advice?

You guys are the best,

Cheers!

ps... Should I respond to the "are you alive" test at all?

Say, "Yes, I'm thinking of all the nasty things I'd do to you." Stop dicking around, and start seducing. Forget about selling yourself to her, sell your pleasure and sex instead. Female affection does not come before sexual pleasure. Give her the pleasure first and THEN she'll snuggle with you after.

Great response! But everything I have read today says that I should ignore her after getting the "let's just be friends" thing. You think it's better to come right at it?

Ignoring her won't magically get her to say, "Oh yeah I'm no longer LJBFing you, let's fuck."

i'm in a similar situation dude. Dont ignore completely, but pull away for sure. Instead of talking to her daily, talk to her like once or twice a week. And when you do talk to her, game. Push-pull, flirt. Try to recreate that attraction. Dont ask her out, wait for her to ask to see you. Make her feel like she's losing you.