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Ok so Im in an incredibly confusing situation. I met this girl about 2 months ago. We got along really well at first, she was flirting complimenting etc. But then the next night I saw her I got way to drunk and was a bit embarrassing. I apologized for how I acted and she was like you were so embarrassing but take me out to coffee to make it up to me. We went out to coffee and it all seemed like LJBF, because when I appologised again for my drunkeness she compared me to her Ex, who she said often acted immaturely when drunk. The next night I was talking to her SPAM, about me and the original girl. She asked if I wanted the truth, and she told me that she thought of me as a 'straight gay best friend'. Which annoyed me. Later on the next night me and the SPAM ended up hooking up. I had to tell the SPAM I wasn't interested in a relationship, because i was only in the country for 2 months, and truthfully I still wanted the original girl.
This has become a serious case of oneitis, where other girls have made passes on me and i just walk away, and aren't interested. So I decided to phase her out and just ignore and avoid her. This was difficult because she lives in my building, but every time i saw her and made eye contact I just made an excuse for having to go somewhere. Then after like a month, I started to talk with her again, and it almost went back to how it was when we first met, we flirted she complemented.
For example she was like I like your jumper, I was telling her about an amazing breakfast i had and she was just like you should of invited me etc. She even saw me and said when are you leaving, and asked me to have a leaving party and was going to help me plan it. Then for like a week i didn't really see her and if i did she kind of avoided me. Like we were in a big group and she walked straight past me and didnt acknoledge me. I then gave in and went over and said hey, she just walked away after 30 seconds. I was pretty annoyed and so later in the week texted her about some job opening i saw. She replied with like cool thanks for that, ps when do you leave. I told her and she was like i will make sure we hang out before you leave. Then last night I saw her and she was like 'come and talk to me' and we chatted for like 20 minutes, in which time she managed to ask me to dinner on monday. She then said I might invite my SPAM along, I was like ummm ok. And she was like yeah shes a bit strange sometimes. I told her that I thought the SPAM now disliked me because she ignored me the whole time. She was like you guys had a thing didnt you, i was like um yeah, i was in a bit of a vulnerable place, but didn't tell her the reason I hooked up with the SPAM was because she was basically or apparently unobtainable. Anyway the conversation still ended well.
But then she went out, she didnt really ask me along but everyone else who was going did. I didnt initially want to go and stayed back for like an hour. I then decided to go along, but she seemed kind of not happy to see me. and it was kind of awkward in there. Like we went to get a drink and i had to get cash, she had already got her drink when i got to the bar and she just walked away and left me with another friend. Then she just left without saying goodbye to me after an hour. Im probably overthinking this but Im so confused. Should i go to dinner with her on monday, it is my last week in this city and i may never see her again, but i do like her as a friend as well and dont want to fuck that up. To me she seems a bit shy, but the messages i get from her are so mixed, i am so confused. Do you think i should telll her the truth about the SPAM? Maybe just be like you know what really happened with your SPAM is that I was in a really bad place over another girl and I really didn;t have feelings for her but she convinced me that the other girl didnt have feelings for me and it was never going to happen. Or even tell her the truth with her name? Most of my friends think shes leading me along and just likes the fact that I like her because it bumps up her ego? Sorry about the rediculously long post. Please help
Ollie
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