A slight case of oneitis & trying to read body language.

So heres my situation.
I was out last night and a girl in my social circle was there. She's about an 8 and I guess you could say I have a slight case of oneitis for her.

Its not extreme oneitis, she is none the wiser. I've managed to control my oneitis for woman since getting in to pick up. I dont really mind if I get this girl or not its just the waiting on my part to find out where I stand that is frustrating me. Im not needy and I can chat to her fine, We always have loads to talk about and its never the bullshit stuff like 'how was your day' & 'you enjoying your night' etc. My problem is I just dont want to fuck up which everytime I meet her I fear Im falling closer and closer to the dreaded friend zone becuase I am missing any window of oppurtunity that was open (if it even was) and Im taking it too slow.

A bit of background info: I don't see her that often. Maybe once or twice a month. Known her for a year. We chat online once a week maybe/text. She never talks about other guys to me or calls me up when she needs a favour etc so I dont think I am in the friend zone......yet. But I can only see it going that way if I dont speed things up.

She is not really shy just a bit weird so reading her body language is difficult. Last night when I was chatting with her she was turning her head away in a shy kind of manner and giggling after I said stuff. I dont know whether that was an IOI I should have acted on or not. She was also standing very close. I made sure not to lean in when talking and she leaned in to me and was getting right in my space constantly pushing her breasts on me. Another IOI maybe or just from standing so close? Either way I guess she was comfortable with being that clsoe.

I kino as much as I can. As for escalation I dont know what Im doing. At the moment I am just touching her in the normal places (wasit, arm, shoulder, hand on back).

She was touching me back. Rubbing my hair etc.
Last night she commented on how curly my hair had gone all of a sudden (it was hot and sweaty in this club) so I said in a flirty kind of way 'is that good or bad' with a cheeky grin but she doesnt seem to respond to any kind of flirtiness tried a few times last night and when we chat online.


I just don't know how to escalte from this kind of interaction. Any ideas?

Thanks for any input.

Wellmthe mke or break in this case is whether she'd LJBF'd you.

If she has you in the friend zone,it'd be super weird for her if you KINO escalate[you already know that].

If she doesnt have you in the friend zone,she's fair game to be seduced.

You said you dont know how to esclate.

1)Ramp up the flirting

2)KINO escalate by touching her playfully more often.

Lastly,become playful with her.

Well that should be 1st.

Playfully pull her to you,tug her,push her,hi-5 her then grab her hand and pull her to you,then push her off.

Are you in the friend zone?

Not quite but heading there if you do not escalate.

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Thanks for the advide dude!

Been looking in to escalation a bit more recently. Gonna hook up with her in the coming weeks and treat it as the make or break night. Definitely going to escalate.

Thanks again.

If anyone has any more tips about my situationthat would be great!

it was weird reading about your situation because I have something pretty similar going on.
I actually don't have a oneitis but the girl is just extremly hot....HB9,9 I would say.
Shes the best friend of a girl I know from school and I know her for 4 months or so.

I don't text with her or anything, just been trying to game her.
I think I did a good job, first convincing her in facebook to come to the club and later in the club at least I started good. I made her buy me a drink and rewarded her with a kiss on the cheek for that. Also I was negging her a bit and have been making the best friends test with her and my friend from school, but its just freakishly hard to keep her attention...maybe I have to learn some more routines because I had their full attention when making the best friends test.

KINO - it feels weird I think because, mmmm i don't know, I did some kino but not enough. Later she was talking to her EX-BF for like half an hour with whom she broke up a month ago. She told me that she wasn't ready for anything new when I was joking about her making out with poolguys on her vacation.

It just wasn't my day I guess. I wasn't 100% relaxed and not having that much fun gaming. It's almost 4am, I'm a bit frustrated and enjoying a nice scotch.

Night guys