Hi everyone,

I've seen this girl 3 times since January.
On the third date I was hoping to kiss close. In the bar I tried to raise the temperature - kino/body language but didn't get many IOU's. She spent a lot of time talking about recent tragedy experienced by a friend and then talked about any upcoming holiday. Put my arm round her a couple of times when walking to the subway station but didn't get any vibe back from her. When we parted - we briefly kissed on cheek, I only had a split second to calibrate and decided a proper kiss wouldn't be appropriate. I still think that. Would have been messy and unconfident.

Sent her a bon voyage text a few days before she flew off.

She got back last Wednesday. On the Sunday I oher a text, mentioned going out on a Sunday afternoon (different from meeting in a bar like before).
Got reply back on the Tuesday: ' had great holiday, got holiday blues, catch up soon.

On Friday afternoon I sent her a text message- I'm going to gig Friday, got weekend off work this weekend, I'm free Sunday.

On Sunday morning I got a reply back from her 'hope you've had a good weekend, sorry for not replying earlier. Going to friends birthday this afternoon.'

Now, yes I know it looks like it going cold. It's first time in the last few years I've got as far as a third date and I'm not getting any younger (have a few grey hairs).
I KNOW DON'T GET ONE-ITIS. But to get as far as third date again will take ages given my track record. E.g. another girl I met said call her at weekend. Didn't answer my call!


This afternoon (Sunday) I thought- text her Tuesday 'Hope sunny weekend got rid of your holiday blues, I'm busy next couple of days, would be good to catch up.
But then I thought- that's too lame and might look desperate as she has already replied sort of luke warm the last couple of times. Giver her a bit off space/don't be a pain in the neck. She really has been busy lately.
So instead I intend to text her in a weeks time e.g a week on Monday. Might say 'long time no see' but probably not as might look desperate.
I'm trying to think of something to put in text message and revive this e.g. go to a market and get more kino/ good vibe.

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Been a swinger for 5 years and now going to more normal parties. Read Tony Clink and Neil Strauss's books. Find that they are useful and would like to go further than just chatting ladies up and getting their email addresses.

You're not creating enough attraction, I can tell just from your description of your interaction with the first girl that you were acting too desperate with her. If you haven't K-closed by the third date, why even bother seeing her again? Remind yourself that you are capable of getting glorious amounts of vagina, missing out on one isn't a big deal. Adopt an abundance mentality even if you'd be delusional for doing so.

It's a numbers game, so don't be put off by a loss. Keep at it.

And what are you doing to raise attraction? It shouldn't be hugs and kisses on the cheek, that shit just gives you blue balls and conveys possible homosexuality.

1. Be wanted by other women
2. Have other shit to do so you're not thinking about texting her 24/7. You should have barely enough time to hang out with her - it should be something she needs to earn.
3. Be ALPHA. Talk about sex, bask in caddishness, make innuendos, touch her whenever you feel like it, flirt with other women in front of her, be DOMINANT.

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