So I've been texting this girl and we've escalated over the past few weeks, but everytime I suggest a meet up or coffee, she says yes then flakes, or says maybe.

the game is perfect, we flirt, i make negs, we tease. but i can't get the second day, any ideas fellow PUA's?

id try this one after the next flake;
'i want you to know that i know what you are doing, the hard to get game is cute, but its not what attracts me to girls, so It's nice talking to you too but take care.'

maybe ur not DHVing enough, thats why shes not to fussy about being in your life, So you could try DHVing more/also.

I agree with luke. Say "You seem like a really cool person, yet it seems like there's a wall around you, and you won't let it down for anyone. I know you want to have new and exciting experiences, but you won't open yourself up. When you're ready to let down your guard, let me know."

When you do this, it's all out of your hands. You put the ball in her court.

There is a difference between "chastising" and "psychoanalyzing" AND having "boundaries".

If you tell her "I know what you are up to, you are playing games, and I don't like it" ... that is chastising. You don't want to chastise a girl you barely know.

If you tell her "You have a wall around you, you are afraid to let it down, when you come out of your shell, call me" ... that is psychoanalyzing. You don't want to psychoanalyze a girl you barely know.

However, it is OK to have boundaries.

I wouldn't talk about HER, I would instead talk about ME (and, more precisely, my boundaries).

I would say say something along the lines of: "Look, you are a great girl, but I've got a no flake policy, my time is very important, and I'm only interested in people who not only want respect, but give it in return. Look me up sometime if you think you can actually show up. "

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

My DHV is perfect, at 20. My main strength is telling them that i study biotech, and if they don't know what it is, they always seem interested about it.

But I think mack's advice would come out a lot smoother. Thanks guys.

I've gone back to AFC for this chyk... not good