First post! Quick summary of myself, I generally do well, however quite passive and 90% of the girls I date are mostly what comes to me. Most of my friends accuse me of having no game. Which is true when it comes to approaching, once I'm talking I do well. I just can't seem to make myself take a shot and approach a woman. Due this I feel as though I am dating a lot but I am not ever going out with the ones I really want. I don't mean this from only a looks perspective, I've had some real duds lately.

I really want to elevate myself to be able to pick up anyone or have no fear to try. I'm also too analytical, always think and usually think myself out of doing. I go to a local sports bar where there is waitress who upon first sight started giving me the eye, putting her head down and giggling etc. Of course I think shes playing me. However none of my friends have ever gotten anything but a polite obligatory smile from her. This went on for a few weeks and increased in frequency.

I was there a couple weeks with a buddy, he got up to use the bathroom and she came over to my corner to grab some napkins. She introduced herself and said it was nice to finally meet me, she walked off and also threw away the napkins without using them, she apparently used that as an excuse to say come by. At this point I'm starting to think that maybe it's more her just doing what shes paid to do. Was in there last night and she lights up with a big hello and now starts rubbing my arm, very flirty.

I am challenging myself to make an attempt, and not be concerned with the fact that I most likely will get turned down but I would feel better than not doing anything at all. Problem is, I've got nothing, no idea how to not be one of many that routinely hit on her. Is it best to just be direct and be done with it?