wow, it has been a while since i have made any posts here, the reason being that i managed to establish a relationship with my oneitis.
story being story i enjoyed the relationship and thought i wouldnt return to pu until recently. the relationship has been uninteresting for months sex is unenjoyable, we argue more than we get along etc etc...
so i have tried to break it off a couple times but she always ends up crying and then i feel guilty and i end up bitching out and comforting her.
so my question is... should i break up with her and any advice on how to do it?

I'm always hesitant to answer questions like "Should I break up with her?" unless you tell us she has clearly committed some heinous act.

If you said "my woman cheated on me" or "my woman is secretly a lesbian" or "my woman smokes meth all day" then I would feel completely comfortable saying DUMP THE BITCH!

But, your complaints are of boringness and arguments.

And those two things leave open the possibility that it's at least partially your fault.

Why are things boring?

What do you guys argue about?

Feel like sharing some details......?

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ok well i didnt want to write a long post complaining abouit my relationship thinkin noone would care but here goes...
when we started out our relationship i played it like a pua, i did everything i could to make her infactuated with me and i pushed this as far as i could.
i eventually got to a point where i thought hey maybe i will stop pu because this is equally enjoyable, so i started approaching the relationship like more of an average chump (not really an afc because i wasnt frustrated) and this is where things slowly started regressing. i found when i stopped putting in sooo much effort i noticed the lack of effort she was contributing, and i started to think "hey its not completetely my responsibility to ensure this thing goes well". i tried telling her so many times what i wanted out of the relationship (this probably sounds selfish but hey im 19) and when she wouldnt put in the effort (im guessing because she was used to having the relationship regulated by me) i started getting annoyed and now im at a point where i almost cant stand being around her and she is still totally into me.
so i guess i probably should have named this thread "how to break off my ltr"

Aha! That provides some more info.

I've been in that same situation. It's a difficult thing - the difference between the "PUA" us and the "REAL" us. There have been some really good articles written on this very site about this issue. Guys complaining that once they "show their real personalities" that the girl loses interest. Who could blame her at that point? It has basically been revealed to her that the guy is not at all who he claims to be or represented himself as. That's why it's better to really change your life and be that outgoing funtastic person instead of impersonating one.

^ I'm not getting down on you, I've done this in the past too. ^

So, you aren't looking for advice on how to be more congruent and actually live your image?

You are looking for advice on how to ditch this chick?

I would just be honest with her. What do you have to lose?

Imagine she may be very confused. At first, if you acted like super-pimp and now you don't (you know the reason why), but she doesn't know the reason why. She might assume that you are playing games with her or that you stopped caring a long time ago. Some of that attention/affection that you built up so early on and got her accustomed to has been taken away.

Be honest with her and say "I used a lot of routines and stuff to get you interested in me, and once I showed you the true 'me', it seems you've stop being interested, I guess this isn't going to work" and move on, man.

Telling her this may clarify things for her and at least give her the opportunity to like the "real" you, or she may walk away, or you can walk away if you are fed up. But I don't see any reason to drag it out or worry about it.

Yet another example of why this stuff is "pick up arts" and not "make a great relationship arts".

Others may have different suggestions.....

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thats good advice dude, and i have been trying to make my real self congruent with my PUA self but i had only been into it about a year before i met this chick, thats actually alot of the reason i want out, i can see we are not going to be together forever andall that crap so i figure i should leave this relationship to pick up where i left off bettering myself.
thanks

Break up.

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that is exactly why you have to be careful when you get into pua

i found myself always interested in inner game from the beggining way more than outter game, and it shows, because it actually improves who i am as a guy and just doesn't give me fancy words to say