Alright so there is a guy who really wants in my girlfriend's pants. He's been trying to "game" her with the most typical, amateur moves that it makes me feel sick... because my girl is actually buying his sh**. Firstly, he keeps repeating what "other girls" tell him. Saying junk like "other girls tell me I'm sweet and a good listener," blah blah blah. And then he actually ADMITTED to her that he was "hating" on me because I took her virginity. He told her that his "goal" was to get her cherry... WTF kind of adequate player would tell that to his target? The hilarious part is that my girl felt PITY for him so she said she told him she had a "massive crush" on him (don't know if that's exactly true or not).

All of this happened online. Yeah I have her Facebook password (don't give me a lecture about trust, I already know).

So basically I've never been in this situation before. Where a player (not even skilled enough to be considered anything close to a PUA) is gaming my girl... but successfully?! Am I missing something here? And how do I deal with this annoyance without coming off as either insecure, or a jerk?

not sure how much i like the whole "felt pity" part to the other guy. definitely don't go and confront this guy because he will twist get your gf on his side.

if she is hiding everything from you online i might suspect something, maybe ask an "innocent" question if she talks to the guy online. Don't put down the guy as it is just more fuel into his growing fire.

all else fails shrug and get another girl, they are dime a dozen.

Actually she DID tell me about him "wanting her cherry." But she didn't mention that she told him she has a "massive crush" on him. Because I asked her if she had any crushes after we had sex, and she said no. Then I said "Yeah I knew you didn't anyways. Only heartless sluts would do that after losing their virginity." And she replied with "Haha yeah, no crushes. I only love you."

So what do you think?

his game doesn't sound tight at all, so I don't think he is successfully gaming your girl. I just think your girl is attracted to him. Who, in a committed relationship with someone they love, admits a massive crush out of "pity." And to have pity because he didn't get to pop her cherry? Please. What a load of crap.

Personally, I would keep a close eye on the situation or confront her about it. But that's me.