Gentlemen, lend me your ears.

I am having a bit of difficulty full-closing a girl I met a few weeks ago. A friend of a female acquaintance (another friend of whom i have full-closed). I was on good form the night we met and kiss closed her that night.

We began corresponding via text and FB and met on saturday. I travelled a couple of hours to see her.

She had offered me her settee, but in order to seem aloof, i booked some cheap accommodation. As a result, she brought forward some sunday plans so by the time we got back to hers, she had t leave and time pressure was on. I kiss closed her again but it seemed awkward.

No reply to text sent that evening.

Where do we go from here? I am due to meet her friend in a professional/social environment this week and i was planning to speak to her and see if she offers any hint of where this is going.

Or do i continue online game?

Your suggestions would, as ever, be appreciated

Giles

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come on chaps, I'm dying here.

I guess we're missing some more information.

Was your close important enough to travel a couple hours to see her?
If she offered you a stay, she might've taken offense at you staying somewhere else. If you wanted to f close her and she gave you GREEN light by offering her place you should've gone much more direct, its the only logical reason I think.

Again I might be missing the big picture but it sounds like a simple situation where you missed the train, if there is no real excuse for not returning your text (ie. broken phone). Its hard to fix right away you might have to give yourself time and space until she contacts you again, I bet she wasn't satisfied with the situation either.

Best Luck!

hi Byzantine. Thanks very much for your reply. It made me realise that what we have going on here is some oneitis. This is not helped by the fact that this girl is a redhead and my "ginger badge" has thusfar eluded me.

Turns out she has to move out of her apartment and has been very busy, hence the no reply. She has started chatting again on FB, so I feel that I am back in the game. I have decided not to travel specifically to see her again as that will damage my value and means that i am qualifying myself. I have to be where she is for some job interviews next week, so that might be a good opportunity.

I think it is worth pursuing but not at the expense of anything else.

I'm not trying to piss on your parade, but you know this is bullshit. It takes ten seconds to send a text. NO ONE, not even The President of the United States, is too busy to send a text.

Now, I'm not suggesting that you dwell on this fact, however, it might not be a healthy mental exercise to accept, learn, and reinforce her bullshit excuses only BECAUSE when you do that you lie to yourself and miss the real reason.

She didn't respond because ___________ (or because "she was busy")...

if you believe the excuse, you will stop focusing on the reason, and hence improve your game.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!