so this girl lives far from me.. like 2 hours drive. and we meet few times a year.. And every time we meet we get it on...
Anyway, we were usually talking on the phone weekly, writing daily etc..
I mean she was the one who called me and wrote to me...
LAst time we met about 1 week ago.. and of course we had great time...
But now, she is not calling me and not writing.. I tried to write to her but she has gone so cold..
Soon she's going to live very near me... and I want her so bad... I just can't stop thinking about her...

what should i do??
be cold myself or .... ?

I feel like we need to hear more details about your situation to give you any helpful advice.

Can you give a little bit more background information about your relationship?

How many times have you two *gotten together*?
Do you call each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"?
Have you fought in the past?
Is she older than you? Younger than you? How old?
Has she even "gone cold" in the past? and if so, what did you do then?

Not enough details....... about you, her, and your relationship in general.

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How many times have you two *gotten together*?

couple times a year for last 3-4 years.. i guess about 10

Do you call each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"?

no, but we have talked about future together.

Have you fought in the past?

well we have had some fights

Is she older than you? Younger than you? How old?

1 year older

Has she even "gone cold" in the past? and if so, what did you do then?

yes. Well she said because she's the only one who's calling, writing... After that i used to call her some times... but this time it isn't working..
I know she really likes me.. so i don't understand what's happening... since we live so far from each other, we both meet other people but that hasn't been trouble befor. maybe that's the problem this time ..

Is it true that she is the only one who initiates contact? Does she always have to call you to get a hold of you?

Also, it's hard to say because I don't know her, but it sounds like she might be a good girl.

Maybe you need to contact her and just talk to her? Unless she is screwing you around all the time (which it doesn't sound like she is), there is no reason to "game" 24/7 and you have to initiate at least a decent portion of the time (like 49%, y'know?) or else this girl is going to feel dissed.

If you really like her, maybe you need to tell her (show her) in some way and talk about what you guys want, what *she* wants, what everybody's expectations are in this situation.

I don't think I would freeze her out because she hasn't really done anything wrong. It sounds like she is always cool with you, you guys hook up, you get what you want, she always initiates contact - that's actually fairly well "behaved" for a girl, lol. Only this time she isn't contacting you, you need to focus on figuring out why she is doing it, not on punishing her for doing it. I could see freezing her out if she was regularly messing with your mind, but it doesn't sound like that is the case.

Maybe she is just tired of initiating and she wants you to contact her and say something, maybe take it to the new level. I don't know.

Maybe others will have perspective on this as well. This is just my impression.

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She is good.. And she is definitely not sleeping with some guys....
thanks..
really helpful