Long story short..Met this girl in June, she swept me off my feet, was (is) amazingl attractive, she basically took me home had sex. I played a good game of hard to get after that, and a couple of weeks later she stayed round mine for the wknd and we had sex alot, but prob not the best from me!! so anyway dhe drew me in more. then she started going distant, i noticed a change, and i found out from a friend she was seeing someone else!! so i called her up on it she denied at first then admitted, i sent uve got to make a decision, a couple of weeks passed and she chose him!! so i said fuck u deleted her as a friend on fbook and so on..but couldn't get her out my head, so about a month later sent her a message saying its cool i just need some closure. we then became friends again, she was all over me saying come see me and stuff..so i did, i blew out footy and saw her, we went out and she said she thinks she may'd the wrong choice, we ended up kissing she stayed at mine, told me her bf was shit and stuff, we didnt have sex after that i thought we were on..then a week later she says shes going to give it another go with him..i was like what the fuck!! deleted her again!! then before christmas i got back in touch, she was single again..we went out for a drink..kissed and it was good, then she starts sending me txtts saying she wants me, then a week later we had sex again, then after that for about two weeks she would ring me everyday, ask what i was up to?..id say not much, do u want to do something?? she'd say maybe..so again im thinking why ask!! we nevver ended up really doing anything, its like she was testing me and i failed badly..i got anoyed with her!! and tried to take some time away, met some other girls e.t.c..since then we went out in january had an amazing night, she tayed at mine and nothing happend..i was cross and said in the morning what the fuck, she said can we just be friends.. it killed me!! i got angry again and sent her home, somehow we went out again a few weeks later this time we kissed all night..after her saying she would walk all over me and im easy..but after that nothing happend again, so its weird since then we went out shopping a couplke of weeks ago and i felt i re-gained her interest a bit again..then we went out on a mid week night a couple of weeks ago, and she pushed me to kiss another girl..and i thought agin she dont want me, so i thought fuck it and pulled this other chick!! since then last weelk we went out on sunday got drunk had a really good time, i cooked dinner, we watched a scary film at her request, got in bed coudled, i tried to play the game but she wasnt having any of it, she wouldnt let me go near her...so i thought brillant ive got a hjot chick naked in my bed that i cant touch!!

so that brings me to now..what do i do? i want her, but i think she sees me as a friend, can i win her back? i tried flirting with her again on fbook this week, but not sure where its going?..but is there any way to get her interest back? i know ive got to be more of a challange as she knows im to easy for her..but if i dissapear for a while again will it work? i think i didnt break rapport on sunday and shes to comfortable with me..my game sucks!

that's one of the most fucked up stories i've ever read.

i have no advice,

unless the above statement can be described as advice, it very well may, i'm not certain.

lol

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Hahaha Mack I read your answer before reading the OP because I knew you had something hilarious to say...

Anyway. Jay. Dude. This girl is playing you in a classic sense. She wants validation--she wants boys to pay attention to her--and you're giving that to her. Hook, line, sinker. These girls are fun as long as you're not invested, emotionally, in some sort of consistent relationship. But it seems you really want something from her, and you want her to be different than she is. In the end, it is a bit insane to expect her to be someone different than who she really is when you hang out with her.

My advice? Play casual, keep her around for a fun time every once in a while, be open to her advances, make some advances of your own, and ditch her when you find a girl you want to start dating exclusively. Play back! Use the situation to try some of your game out. In short, reframe the situation and you'll see that this can be a very good thing for you.

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Thanks for the reply dude, yeah that makes perfect sense..It's just frustrating to have someone u want and have had so close, but now maybe so far..i mean her getting in my bed half naked the other week couldn't be any more teasing!! she's just got as u say an emotional hold over me, but im sure she has on many others..and she knows it, it just seems like ive wasted 10 months, and now it doesn't look like ill get any sex as ive become her "freind"...will she ever settle? or are these girls like this for life? shes 20 and im 25..i sort of feel i need o delete her out my life for the 3rd time lol....but as u say i may be able to use her to my advantage, which i suppose im sort of doing now.. i think last sunday she may have tested me for one last go, and i missed the chance.. and probably blew it for good this time...in my eyes.. i could be wrong, but i think she finds comfort in me, over all the other idiots she probably goes with, so i may have a little hold over her..so u dont see any point in trying to turn this around, or anyway? cheers dude

You're trying too hard to get something out of this girl that she doesn't want to give.

Look, she is young, and she is having fun interacting with men. She is learning to play the game, and based on her behavior, she isn't interested in a serious relationship. She just wants a fling. So do yourself a favor and enjoy your interactions with her, improve your game at the same time, and stop trying to force her into your definition of what she should be.

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Thank you, thank you. I'll be here all week. Don't forget to tip the waitstaff!!!

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Cool thanks dude, yeah makes sense..I feel tho if i can't persue her, i need to remove her as she's on my mind!! Don't know if thats the best thing to do? I do remember her saying before..She may like me more if i didn't like her so much..but i can seee this is probably a waste of more time and stress chasing her?.. cool dude