So me and my girl havent shagged in a while and for the first time in ages her flat was free so we were planning to shag all day, i seem to get boners just when im hugging her and after a while a bit of cum comes out so i told her not to fuck yet.

When i was ready i couldnt get it up! Second time i couldnt get it up, i laid next to her to go sleep and bam! There it was my boner. She tried turning me on but my dick just wouldnt get hard.

Has anyone else had this problem?

did u wear a condom? i had a condom once that was too tight and it would squeeze on my vein and it would make me go soft..

i had that problem in a threesome....it's only because you think about it....you have to let the sexual impulses take you...not your thoughts. Trust me my first threesome I didn't get a boner at all haha... but you have to laugh about it because you learned from your situation.

if you are beating off or watching porn, you need to stop now

and yes, condoms can be fucking retarded

Lol, i've barely been watching porn for the last few years, maybe once a week? And i couldnt get hard before i put the condom on . Lol il try what you suggested and see what happens, when im drunk its easy as hell so tonight im getting laid

if is easy when you're drunk and goes away when you're about to start doing stuff it might be anxiety or worrying about the act itself? You seem confident enough but from what you've said thats the only thing that really makes sense.

I've seen some people say this in different threads. What's the reasoning behind this?

From my understanding and from what I've read on this forum, because you're used to getting off to beautiful, stunning and almost perfect porn actresses, when you come to have sex with a girl, even though she might be stunning, you'll be less aroused, lowering your exposure to porn, and indeed less masturbating will ensure that you're more horny when you're fooling around with a girl.

I've had erection problems, and I somewhat still am. I used to watch porn and wank almost daily, I've since stopped watching porn, and try and wank no more than once or twice a week if I don't "get any" during that time. I do still have the occasional problem, but it's getting much better with the girl I'm dating now, I can maintain an erection longer and I'm getting more comfortable with being naked in front of her.

Chances are, you're just nervous and in your head a little too much, that's fine and it's nothing to worry about. You say you don't have problems when you're drunk? Probably because you're not worrying and thinking about your erection problems and whether you'll be good enough.

Try and make her cum before having sex, it'll take the pressure off of you a little.

Ah I see! Cheers!