Ok so I know an hb9 who I've known for about 7 months or so.. we see each other almost every weekend from our "group of friends" we hang out with..

anyways I never really flirted with her until one night about 3 weeks ago. It's really hard for me to describe how she acts with me. Like, I'm pretty sure she likes me & has interest in me but it's as if she doesn't want to show it. I'm even thinking she's probably had issues with "love" in her past and is scared to fall into it again - but that's just my thoughts.

Anyways my friend swares that she likes me because she always asks for me, and one time got sad that I didn't go to a party she was at.. and yesterday I was gonna go to another party and she texted me asking if i was gonna go and I told her later at night - then she texted me askng again when I was going because she was there already etc. etc.. I personally don't see her being thaat into me but my friend swares she is, she probably talks to him more about me ..

anyways she texts me asking me if i'm going and when i'm gonna be there... I show up, and it's a small kickback of really close friends (15 or so close friends) - I walk in and say hi to everyone in the area and she sort of goes walking off and doesnt say hi to me. So I just thought like, ok if she's acting weird like this I won't say hi either.. so I was just talking with other friends for 20 minutes or so then I walk into another room where she's at playing beer pong and I approach her and she tells me "why didn't you say hi to me"?- then I blamed her for it jokingly then we were cool. But then the rest of the night she was wandering off the whole time not putting any interest in me. This was for basically the WHOLE night- UNTIL..I told everyone I had to go in which case she went crazy saying NO YOU CAN'T LEAVE and tried convincing me for 5 minutes to stay .

She always acts with me like this when we go out, like she shows a lot of interest but then like doesn't really let me get anywhere with her-she wants to make it an extreme challenge I'm guessing.. I think I should add that she gets drunk. a lot. I don't really like talking to people when they're so drunk.

I'm really not sure what to do with this girl she's fucking confusing .
need advice please thanks

In my opinion, she is not so much complicated as klingy. However, I'm pretty certain guys in previous relationships have ditched her for being klingy and have told her as much. Consequently, she is trying to fight her, klingy ways, by appearing not to be klingy. However, she is still very much klingy so she is doing a bad job of it.

It's funny, it sounds like a guy who is just starting to learn pick-up but still can't control drooling over a girl.

In my opinion klingy is never good. I mean it sounds nice that a girl would be really interested in you, but the reality she is not so much really interested in you as she is insecure about herself. Consequently, klingy leads to monitoring you, bossing you around, questioning you, ultimatums and more.

Personally, I would stay away from this girl.

It's time to play "Call a bitch out!!!"

It's really one of my favorite games because it allows you to insert an unbelievable amount of DHV.
It goes a little something like this

"I want you to know that I know what you are doing. The "hard to get"/"chase me" game is cute, but it's not what attracts me to a woman"

her - whatever she feels like saying

"Don't get me wrong I used to do a lot of chasing, but when I realized I didn't need to my life got a lot less stressful"

her - blah blah blah

"I mean, we don't need to have a debate about it. I just wanted to let you know that I know you like me and that if you are waiting around for me to chase you it just isn't going to happen. I respect a woman who can go out and take what she wants with out playing games... like I do (hahahaha).

Then don't respond for 48 hours and see what happens.

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I like this, this is good! This is the first time I have heard of this. Props to you.

I still havn't talked to her since that night ^^ that was 2 nights ago .

yesterday her little sister (who never had my number) texted me asking me what I was doing that night; she must've asked her sister for my number.. I don't get why..

Not sure what I should tell this girl (not the little sister, im talking about the target) because we still havnt talked.. hmmm

Dude, this is just getting worse and worse as you go along. I swear to God, she sounds like some really, really immature man. Personally, I would be weirded out by all this s'. I swear if you are not BSing us, man, just stay away.

I mean throughout my life, women have always been the more social cunning creature. I've never encountered a girl like the one you describe who is so socially inept.

I mean, this thread is cool because now I see how girls view guys who are socially inept. It is in fact a creepy feeling. I think I can now say I can relate.

Hell, I'm going to use this whole story as a part of my conversation when picking up women. It's way too intriguing and strange to pass up.

Did you call her out? If not then do it.

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what do you mean if I called her out? like to go do something?
no because I have mixed feelings about her and wasn't sure what to do ..

I'm just thinking about trying to find a way to counter the weird way in which she acts .. because she acts like she doesn't care for seeing me but then suddenly does care, I want to find out a way to battle that but not sure how..

cause I can ask her out no problem.. but then when we go out again then what.. she's gonna be acting the same

did you use the "call out" routine that I posted.

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no because I'm still not that sure if she really likes me. like I can sense she does and my friend who's known her for a lot longer than I have swares she does .. I'm not sure how it'd go if I called her out .. because there's a chance she'd say wtf i never liked you etc. etc... if we made out one night or something I'd probably be able to tell her that but we've only mildly flirted ..

You need to assume she does.. If you seriously think that it's happening.. it is.. get some balls son..

See remember she has no real idea how she feels.. it's your job to cultivate the attraction.. grow the seed man, act on it.. get physical..

It'll however be fuccken awkward if you fucck it up and she deny's it..

idk if i should avoid talking to her - like close her out for a few days or if I should initiate contact again?

7 months is a long time to know a girl and not know if she likes you or not! Always assume a girl is attracted to you.

Seriously, do what Jits said. Who cares is she says she isn't attracted to you. Then judging from her response, you'll then know what's up and you can move on and find another girl that is attracted to you if she isn't interested in you. It's as simple as that. Don't over-complicate the situation any more

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Just do it bro. You gotta assume every girl likes you anyway. You would be surprised at the number of times I've said "You think I'm cute" and a girl kind of looks up and you see the "Wow, I didn't realize it until he told me" look.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.