I've been going out and trying, but the farthest I've gotten so far is a kiss. I've never even made out with a girl.

Is this really uncommon?

It's more common than you'd think.

You're still young though, so I wouldn't let it get you down. Just focus on the future: what your goals are, and where you want to go. Don't spend a lot of time wallowing in your regrets, because you can't change the past. Shit, I wish I'd done a lot of things differently.

As far as your being a 21 year-old virgin goes, who gives a shit? A lot of girls, sluts in particular, will jump at the chance to take your virginity, so you've got that going for you. Also, your future sexual escapades will probably be a lot more "dynamic" for you than for someone who has been there and done that, so you've got that to look forward to.

A word of caution: some girls are freaked out by virgins. So while your V-card might help you in some situations, it can hurt you in others. Think about what kind of situation you're in before letting the cat out of the bag.

you are asking the wrong question. who cares if it's common? Does that even make a difference? the only relevant thing here is that you are a virgin, whether or not it's common, and you don't want to be a virgin anymore. So the real question should be: "I'm still a virgin, how can I get laid?" And to that question there is obviously no easy answer, and I personally don't think telling women you are a virgin is the way to do it (as the above poster suggested).

Waiting for the special someone is admirable and all, I can respect people's decision to do that. But if that's not you, and I will assume that it's not because you are here on the PUA forums, then here are MY suggestions. Again, MY suggestions. Number one can fairly be disputed.

1. Don't be picky. At this point, you need experience in more than just sex. You need experience in kissing and foreplay as well as just generally creating a sexual vibe. The experience will build confidence and know-how, with the result being getting laid for your first time (and future times). So, you may have to fool around with some chicks who have a few extra pounds. I only say this because you mention having problems and your self-confidence is down.

2. Practice. Practice kino escalation, practice going in for the kiss. Practice turning conversations sexual. Get blown out. Get pushed away. Weird some random girl out. Who cares?

I'll admit to having some dry streaks earlier in life, and the mistake I made was being too cautious, self-conscious, and timid. You can't just wait around for the perfect moment. Make it happen, captain.

Hey, btw. Before anyone says anything nasty to me. This post was made by my buddy who really didn't want to make an account. I thought I'd be nice and let him ask a question through mine.