Quote:
Okay, I can see what you mean you're not getting any advice here. Advice 1 is stop texting immediately. Your text game is awful. It's good you have confidence and you interpret things in a positive way, but you're totally blind to the exchange. You're holding her latte maker for ransom and you're being so overtly sexual and overly interested that you are a hair away from her saying "Fuck it, I'll get my mum to buy me another one". If you keep doing like you're doing she is going to utterly shut you out. If a girl stops texting you, it's typically a IOD, if you keep calling her out on it, that in NO WAY makes her more likely to be more attentive in the future.
I think the only thing that went well was that she was opening up about how she fucks things up. That is a WONDERFUL opportunity to you know, make her a last latte and talk to her when she comes to pick up the machine (she'll be obligated to stay and finish the latte at least, no?). This was an excellent cue that you missed out on. Sounds like she wants to TALK, doesn't it? Avoid texting, you're not good enough at it, push for a meet up.
How long until she leaves the country? In a guy's mind, it's really convenient to have a fuck buddy so you can just focus on leaving the country. For a lot of women, they'll burn all their sexual bridges so they'll have less entanglements when they leave. If there's a time crunch of a month or less, you should go for a hail mary and throw out the idea of a fuck buddy (not in those terms) and how convenient it would be. You'd do this when her buying temperature seems pretty good like during a good make out. My roommate had success doing it this way, but the girl was probably a little masculine minded about sex.
If you have the luxury of time, then this will be a lot easier. I had an ex and we broke it off on horrible terms. We kept in touch for financial reasons and after about 8 months I learned about game and started feeling bright and confident. I suggested we hang out, we drank a bottle of Baileys in the park and she confessed how she wished she could have me back since I'd improved so much. Screwed her that night and I was pretty much over it. We're still good friends, she occasionally offers sex. Basically it's like this. You were just good enough that she dated you for a while. Then you got comfortable and became slightly shittier and she didn't want you anymore. She still likes the kind of guy you were (unless you were ridiculously horrible), so if you improve yourself even a little bit, you'll be better than that guy she settled for the first time. How can she resist?
Oh yeah, I thought it was really weird she mentioned a fling. I'm guessing you've been broken up for a while. That could be a good opportunity for you to get your foot in the door if you can reminisce about the old sessions you used to have. Or she might have just wanted to make you jealous. Or worst of all, she might think of you as an asexual friend now.
If you want to do it, listen to this guy.
However, why are you gaming an ex FIANCEE? There are BILLIONS of women. You can easily find one that's even hotter, younger, more into you and who shares more in common with you tomorrow if you just go out and start opening.
There's so much emotional baggage and shit in the past that's gonna make the whole thing, if you do make her a FB, into a shitstorm of possible awkwardness, negativity and drama. Why put yourself through that? The point of having a FB is because things are lighthearted, fun, and there's no responsibility or commitment - you guys just enjoy the sex, and that's it. Do you really think you can transition into this kind of relationship with her without literally wiping clean her memory of what went on before? I don't think so.
Anyway, even if you could and wanted to, the strategy of making a (normal) ex into a FB is to first off, NOT GIVE A SHIT, make no effort to get her back or contact her, and then be fucking other women without a care in the world, before you even think of re-engaging contact as FRIENDS, and then escalating things from there. Right now, you're telegraphing tons of neediness and it's not helping anyone.
CHAT
my generic response is "dont worry you will be great"
