ok guys,

This girl came in to my work a few weeks ago. I have appointments. I wont go into detail but...
I charmed her and took care of everything she needed. She said she would come back again to show me what she had done and to see if there was anything more she could fix after that.

So i told myself then that when she came in again I would ask for her number. Its not really a professional thing to do at work but i don't care.

She came in again and i choked and didn't get her number. I'm an idiot. But shes really into me, its totally obvious.

HERES THE PREDICAMENT. and also i think a good question cuz it probably happend to a few ppl before.

I have her first name and her cell phone number in the appointment book. But it would be really sketchy if i just used it without her permission.

Now, should i or should i not maybe send a text to her explaining that I was too chicken too ask her out before and tell her that i got her number from the appointment book and if i didn't send her this text that I would be kicking myself because... blah blah blah

what do you all say?

same with the phone number. If you look up a girl on facebook and add her randomly after meeting her will she find that creepy? I never do this but im sure other people have struggled with this answer.

I never have a problem asking for a name to add to facebook but a number seems more personal especially during the day. My night game is pretty decent.
anyway, i'm never going to let this happen again but i like this girl and want to talk to her more.

Thats called stalking. It's illegal, and a sign of weakness and neediness.

ya it does sound really needy. all this could have been avoided. Shes into me 100% its obvious. I should have just got the number.

but shes gone, and how else will i ever be able to talk to her again?

your saying i should forget her all together and if i see her again i see her again. Move on.

Yea the situation places you in a lower position. You will seem needy like mudleaper mentioned. And what if you do call, mess it up, and she calls your workplace and gets you fired. I say move on there are maybe 3 billion other girls you can talk to.

But, if you dont really care about that, what do you have to lose? You will practice a kind of game a lot of people don't play. Coming from a way lower value. If you increase your value in that short period of time over the phone, you will be better at the game. I don't know what to call it. Bum game?

It's your call.

That's desperate... The easy way isn't always the best way. Do not, under any circumstances call her up from your appointment book.

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maybe i can use it as a hoop. I told her to come back and see me and if she does that means she jumped through my hoop and I'll be more confident about askin for the number.

and if not well then i learned a valueable lesson. and i can chock it up as a mistake that caused an improvement in my game.

and if i bump into her again. well then thats just plain good luck.

If she's 100% into you then I'm sure when you told her to come back and see you, those words were in big flourescent flashing colors in her head.

Keep it cool and don't make the same mistake twice. That one will be back around again.

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horrible idea. don't mix business with pleasure. that's like someone from a dr's office getting a patient's number and being like "hey baby!" nope, don't do that.

wait till you see her again and mention that you have this really fun thing you are going to do and mention to her that it's probably the sort of thing that she would like. i guarantee she invites herself!

It's too big of a hoop your asking her to jump through. You have to start with small hoops then build bigger hoops. Your first hoop can be "can you speak a little louder, i can't hear you." Then another hoop later in the conversation would be: "make a wierd noise in the phone." And then finally the largest hoop: "come see me at X cafe but I hope your not weird in real life."

From your previous post I have the feeling you don't have too much experience. I don't think you have enough experience to call her, build buying temperature and ask her to jump through gradually bigger hoops. I mean, there's only one way to get experience but still...

It's way easier to start fresh.

wait so.. u told him don't do it, then u gave him advice on how to do it.. u got me confused now lol

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i told him not to go digging through a book and calling her. and instead, to wait until he sees her and casually mention something about going and doing something fun. the difference is in the stalking part and breaking the privacy of your clients.

ok cool, same page then

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