I have been taking to a girl online for the past month. We have exchanged numbers but occasionally also have online chats. Last week was was somewhat receptive as in, she initiated text conversations, was eager to talk when I finally came online after some time. And was also into a bit of sex talk early on when we met, as in didn't deny my somewhat conspicuous sexual advances. Around the first week

Recently, whilst being playful and making her look like a pervert, I told her that when we meet (which is decided already, although not confirmed when), she should first promise that she won't make any sexual advances towards me which she obliged to (she rarely promises anything).

Also, she I think for the first time denied any physical contact stating "you will never get the chance", or "you can only be so lucky" Or when I said:

ME: Sorry babe, you can't [do this], this isn't going to work out
HB: I don't know what you mean by that but I don't want to work out anything with you. I'm glad.

She also stated "you are practically begging for it" to which I replied "you insult my intelligence" and stuff, although she took it back when she said it was a "joke" when I said something about her I found out just to get me to tell her how I found that information.

So, is it possible I may have come across as a bit needy? I think a nervous 30 minute phone call might have caused a few dents (she said I talked a bit to fast). Although I denied any sexual advancements before they came. Or was this the wrong way to go about things (sort of):

Her: I'm hungry
Me: I think I might make you dinner, if only you promise not to jump on me while I'm doing it.
Her: I'm sure you'd like it. Stop being paranoid. (although recently this turned to "get over yourself", or "you can never be this lucky")

Any advice? Need to build that sexual chemistry back up. Should I keep it strictly text from now on? or the only way to resolve this situation is to do about it physically when we meet, although here I'm afraid she might stop me since I get the feeling since she said "you aren't getting any" or you get the idea here...

Edit: Just to add, I have teased her a lot about being a pervert or wanting it but not saying it, and that "you have been remotely manipulating me" or something. So, would it be a good idea to mention to her before I meet that "you wanted it, I coming to give it to you now". (Since before I used to deny it, but now that according to me she wants it, I will give it to her to sort of "give this a rest".) Good idea?

Edit2: She has mentioned once or twice that "why don't you come to my place" or "just come to my town" when I was trying to get her to come to me. I then told her to split my expenses in half to which she somewhat agreed to say the least.

Bump

it sounds like you were the one who put her on the defense by saying:

sorry baby, this isn't going to work, we can't do this (or whatever you said like that)

sounded like she was being playful and you gave her an ultimatum.

am i missing something here?

ps - internet gaming is retarded. go meet real girls.

With the situation you stated, I suggest that you attack her sexual state to regain that sexual attraction.


I agree with what Mack 2.0 said, "sounded like she was being playful and you gave her an ultimatum".

First, The wrong thing that you have done is you repelled her.
She said "You're begging for it" and you replied "You are insulting my intelligence", which in some point embarrassed her, and this forced her to reply that is was just a Joke.

Second, you are over teasing her! Just put it into place, learn when to tease and when not to.

Third, the fish is already laid on the dish. Why not go get it? She was making effort and failure to realize this will only get her tired with you.

I agree on continue on being contact with her. Send her mixed feelings, like act as the pervert as sometime and when she bites, go on with her flow a bit, then slowly take it away. Do not let her predict your next moves.

With the phone conversation, you should keep it cool and confident. Talk slow and in a deeper tone, this shows your masculinity and your control over the conversation.

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Hmm, maybe over-teasing is the problem.

But she now has denied any sexual contact to occur if we meet.

it's done.

you fumbled enormously.

she said "you are not getting any" (which was likely a playful thing)

and you said "oh no no, that ain't gonna happen" (which is borderline creepy)

all is lost.

I think so. Just to avoid this again, what should have i said.

And to be quiet honest, I think she was being serious that time.