I met this girl four months ago at a party, kn-closed her, hung out with her some more and made it "official" three months ago.

To keep it short all that's happened so far is that we're both naked in bed and I finger her and she gives handjobs that don't finish me. I told her she should give me a blowjob. She had her mouth on my dick and didn't want to go through with it. I keep telling her that I want to connect with her on a deeper level and that I want to have sex with her but all she tells me is that she's nervous.

I feel like a fucking faggot when I ask my roommate if I can borrow the room for a night and end up only kissing for hours on end. I take control in the relationship, I do what I can to make her feel attractive, I take the initiative in bed and I haven't gotten further than second fucking base. She says she loves me and wants to do it with me but she needs to feel more comfortable first. I tell her that I'm disappointed that she doesn't feel the same connection I do but that I'm understanding. Deep down, I'm not, but whatever.

I think this all stems back to when I asked her to take her shirt off on the third day I knew her. She didn't comply so I froze her out and just made out with her. I think she got a bad impression of me.

Am I forcing/rushing things or is there something wrong here?

If she doesn't want to lose her Virginity-let it be.

If you want to have sex anyways, you should break-up or keep waiting. You can try to arouse her as much as you can, and then go from there.

I really don't know what to say except for stay away from virgins.

That puts a lot of unnecessary responsibility on you.

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I really don't know what to say except for stay away from virgins. [/quote]

Why would you say that?

that's why.

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That puts a lot of unnecessary responsibility on you.[/quote]

that's why.[/quote]

It might but I don't understand how so. There was this girl (who was religious but had loser morals) I used to know who apparently broke her virginity to some guy when she got into this whole relationship thing. First few weeks at university, meets the guy in a club, 2 hours later she is sucking him off. Few days later she fucks.

I mean how does it put responsibility on you? (Maybe I'm generalising here, and sorry for sounding like a noob.)

I decided I'm going to stop trying to force sex and that I'm going to do more freezeouts when we do things in bed.

I can't act like I want sex and she is ultimately giving it to me or else I'm going to look like a bitch. I got to act like I don't really want it and can get it whenever I want.

I'd say it isn't like you DON'T want sex, rather you'd like to have it, but if she doesn't want to, whatever.