I've read up on to much seduction techniques and now I just have to go out there and do it, but I still don't have the guts because my anxiety is too crazy..anyway how did you overcome approach anxiety?

Check this out bro. It works, just do it in a Location where you don't have to worry about seeing these people again. Such as a mall that's a certain distance away from your house.

It also helps to take a friend with you and instead of simply saying hi, flirt with the girls a little. Remember, you'll always have to escalate, after not being afraid of saying hi to everybody, take it a step further and actually initiate something after the "hi"

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Well, a lot of approach anxiety is really in your head, so it helps to find ways to change the way you view it in general. This was something I heard in David DeAngelos interviews with dating gurus series, can't remember which guy said it. But basically he equated anything you do in life to a point system based on courage.

So if for instance, walking up to a women gives you 10 points of anxiety, and if it requires 10 points of courage to walk up to her, then you get 10 points of confidence, which you can use anywhere in your life. So, the trick really becomes just overcoming any situation in which you are anxious, doesn't even have to be with women.

You can think of it like leveling yourself up in a game, so if walking up to women with no problem requires like 2500 points of confidence, you're gonna have to walk up to 250 women cold, or you can walk up to 100 women, and get the other 1500 points elsewhere. I find if you're really nervous, even just going to the store and talking with the male cahsier's at first and just saying "how is your day going?" is very helpful. Even if that only gives you 2 points of confidence its a start.

Anyway, now you are framing it around something other then women, when I get stopped in a situation where I want to approach, I always think about it in terms of "well if I go do it anyway, I'll get some confidence which will benefit me in the long run". So now I'm not thinking about the women so much, but about the positive confidence part of it.

Anyway, make sure you put yourself out there in situations, don't sit at home because that will get you absolutely nowhere. If you at least get yourself out there on a daily basis, you will at least start seeing the potential for an approach, so that when you go home and think about it, your brain starts doing the work for you. For instance, I like to read, so instead of sitting at home and reading, I go to chapters and just read my book there. Instead of sitting at home working on my laptop, I go to a coffee shop and work on my stuff there. Get it?

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You know what works good? Just start by saying hi to 20 strangers, next day start conversations with 3 people and make sure by the end of the conversation you remember their eye color. (Doesnt matter if it is a boy or girl)

also another one you can do is have a friend write a note, go to a girl and give her the note in the mall. Just a random girl and have her read it out loud to you. (dont read it yourself so what the note says is a mystery to you)


If you want to get rid of approach anxiety you have to approach girls!!! You can't just get rid of it.

Postpone worrying about it till you get home after you've done the approach, if there is an HB with you when you get home...................then it wasn't worth worrying about.

The whole basis of AA is you're afraid of rejection and how it will make you feel.
So use an opinion opener then there is nothing to reject. If you stopped a guy in the street to ask for directions and he ignored you then you would just think "what an ignorant fucker" it wouldn't knock your self esteem in anyway so the same goes for using an opinion opener on a HB, consider it as a fast track screening process, if you are ignored then it's not the type of girl you would want anyway.

I use pretty much the same opinion opener on all women of "Does this shirt go with these trousers?" and in well over a 100 openings I have had zero bad responses.

AA actually has no power over you at all, only the power you give it, if you would approach for £1,000,000 without hesitation then what difference does the money make?
Just approach from the front so you don't suprise her, use the three second rule and bring HER into your reality.

The best way forward, is through.
As in, just get on with it. I suffer anxiety, until I realised I need to take these shots out of comfortzone.

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I'm a lover, not a fighter.

I like alot of Mysterys opinion openers. I'll walk up to a group to get there opinion on something not to pick them up (yet), but to geniunely ask their opinon. Then if I get a warm response I will start to ecscalate.
This takes the AA away for me because I dont really class it as PU, but just asking for an opinion.

Hope this helps.