I'm setting up a date 2 with this girl.. We previously agreed on Monday. Next day I texted her saying OK meet me Monday at 7:00 at X. She didn't reply.

Should I:
1. Text her again and ask her to confirm -- (Needy perhaps?)
2. Try to call her and make sure she's coming -- (Again, needy?)
3. Just go there and risk her not coming -- (Is it solid enough this way?)

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Not sure about this, but how about you send her a text telling her that you might be a little late as you have (ad lib something cool sounding here) to do.

That way you're not sounding needy by asking her if she's still going, whilst building up a smidgeon of value at the same time. Plus you'll then know whether or not she's going.

Just a thought.

Ya, these situations are very risky in general. Whenever I'm in a shaky situation like this where I'm not sure, I like to make like George Costanza and do a preemptive strike. I will message the women the day of the date sometime in the afternoon well before the date and just say "hey something came up and I can't make it tonight, lets reschedule for sometime next week instead."

I find if you break it off with them, then you gain some power back and now she's thinking "I wonder if he has another date, did I just get bumped?". Then you see how she responds and you can go from there.

Rebel

That happened to me a few time...One time, I set up a date for the next day, 4pm,at Starbucks, and she said she would txt me in case anything happens.
I already had this feeling that she would flake on me but I went anyways to the coffee place just to make sure. As I was getting there, 5 minutes before meeting up, she sent me a message saying she couldn't make it. Not even a sorry. So I still went there, had a coffee, then went home.
What I did was, I totally ignored her message and 3 hours later later I texted her:

"Heyy I totally forgot about meeting you up at Starbucks. I was having a blast with my friends , got distracted, and just noticed I'm 3 hours late! Hope you didn't make it. Anyways, let me make it up to you."

then 1 hour later she txt me asking if I got her first message. I said no. not a single message. then she told me she was kinda sick and didn't make it either.

anyways, after that she must have thought " wow he totally forgot about me. why? maybe he had another date ?"
Next day, I talk to her and SHE invites me to go to a bar. the date went great!


If I were you I wouldnt text her, call her, or anything. Just don't do anything. When you texted her you didn't necessarily ask her a follow up question right ? you said "k, meet me at 7 tomorrow"...Maybe she didnt feel like she needs to reply since no questions were asked. Maybe she will go. It you don't do anything it will show you're not needy and insecure about the date.

I'd still go there 5 min late to make sure she flaked on you. if she did and doesnt txt you. just do like I did. make something up like I did that creates DHV.

i dont know man. it worked for me

Make new plan, if she call to confirm, tell her you made new plan since she didn't respond, and maybe next time.

I am in the same situation, supposed to meet up today to celebrate her handing in her first edition thesis. I mistakenly didn't set a time, so am just going to wait and see if she replies.

But I like Gringo's advice to text her afterwards saying you forgot about the date. It shows much better DHV, the opposite is true if you keep texting her before you meet!