Sorry a little long

Hey so as i have said in my introduction im a girl and have used this forum alot to help me and ive been really successful but i have hit a massive road block!

Target: 23 year old male insecure yet massive ego virgin never had a gf before.

he is very well aware that i am not a virgin but i dont sleep around alot either at all.

Everything goes well, we build rapport, kino escalates, body language is positive, i remain in control he chases me then......... we have an intimate moment and he FREAKS OUT.

First time. we kissed and he went absolutely mental like omgomg i dont want gf i dont see you in the way you are ONLY a friend blah blah....so i moved on with my life

but he chased and chased and i didnt want to give up on this one because he is a massive challenge, so i built it all up again......Last saturday he ends up manually stimulating me through my underwear and with some help with direction reached the peak shall we say.....turn around to give him a hug again same thing.........him saying...oh my god i dont like you in that way, i calmly explained i wasnt asking to get married to him or anything but he freaked out completely.....i told him i was cool with wherever we take it from here.

BUT IM ANNOYED grrrrrrrrrr

any advice?

most recent interaction he was out drinking last night and was texting me literally non stop like every minute asking where i was, if i wanted to come out etc etc.

I just am a little confused at why im failing!

thanks

sounds like he is gay and confused

Welcome to the forum



Guys who have reached a certain age without having lost their virginity (him), tend to get very insecure when it comes to women with more sexual experience (you). What I've picked up on is that they want to lose the V card, but it becomes harder and harder for them to do so- they become more ashamed of their age and lack of sexual adequacy with each passing year.

I believe this is the problem here. He's never had a girlfriend- he lacks experience, and he doesn't want to make a fool of himself. That's why he runs from the idea, and just says he doesn't want one:
Same story when it comes to doing anything sexual. He's insecure because of his inadequacy... you've had prior sexual partners; you can tune in to that inadequacy... you can compare him to other guys... hence:
To me it sounds like he's into you, but the cocktail of fear, shame, and ego, resulting from lack of experience, is causing him to act this way.


-Roz

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