lets say you piss of a girl,doesnt matter whos fault...unless its something really big or extreme rude example(someone died etc etc) i will apologize cause thats just the right way but what if a girl is being over sensitive or just throwing tantrums or acting like cause shes beautiful guys usually apologize,how should i handle this?

should i defend my self and fight back which will cause an argument but atleast i dont look like a wuss who keeps saying sorry or i should just act cool like nothing is happen and tell her theres no point talking to her now shes in that state,will talk to her when shes cools down while acting normal or is there a better way to handle this?

i need your advices people of the board..thanks in advance n sorry for my english.

No, you never start an argument with a girl. You will lose social value, draw attention to yourself in a negative way, and potentially blow the entire venue, not just the set.

Having said that. When I'm out and about, I don't see 8s, or 9s, or SHB10s. Every girl there, I view as they were when they were younger -- like 10, or 11 years old. I treat every girl there as though they were a younger sister, and they are all competing for my attention. It's a great social frame to use, because it gives you context for how to react to most situations like this.

How would you react if you were a suave 22, 23 year old and your 11 year old younger sister was throwing a tantrum? My approach is to go "Ooooh, sweetheart, I didn't mean anything by it. I'm sorry -- will you forgive me?" Calibration here is soooo impeccably important. If you get the vibe that what you may or may not have done was a small social blunder (you accidentally stepped on her foot, or made an off color joke she took offense to), mix in a little bit of sarcasm -- even if it makes her angrier, its a DHV to everyone else in the venue -- it shows that you aren't trying hard, and in my opinion it earns you social proof. Some might argue this point with me. If you've done something worthy of an actual apology (You've spilled your drink on her, or you accidently dropped some cigerette ash one her -- this is something I've been guilty of.), drop the sarcasm and make sure your apology is heartfelt and sincere.

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Great reply. I also am questioning why the girl is mad at you. I agree there are many times a girl will become mad for reasons that make no sense to us (although there is always a logical explanation), but it would be helpful for you to give us a specific situation in order to form a better response. IMO i defintely think that every response is situational and specific to a given scenario.

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I dont want to hijack the thread but how do you deal with the opposite? i.e. a girl who is so passive aggressive?

One minute she will open up, albeit in an aloof manner, and the next when I try to talk to her about the same thing, she will put her bitch shield up.