Sorry please delete this, I was helped out in the chat

hey

Im going to a give a perspective from a female point of view, now this based on me and some of my girlfriends and my own personal experience in long term relationships so this may not be the RIGHT per say but it may help you a little.

I noticed this happening to me in my relationships when i started getting too comfortable i wasnt scared of losing the guy, he would there no matter what....

When this happened with my ex bf what he did is he distanced himself from me slightly, he didnt ignore me for 2 days...he got life away from me....i wasnt a part of it he was busy doing stuff with friends or going to the gym alot....

it was never mean, just a little elusive and when he started to do that....the sex improved.

It definitely sounds to me like she feels like she has you on a leash. I was once AFC in my relationship also. You're going to have to put a lot at risk in order to gain back dominance. What I mean is, depending on how stubborn she is, the relationship might be over. This is you NUMBER ONE mistake...you're ASKING her for sex. I don't mean go and rape her or anything, lol but she should want to have sex with you.

Here is what I would do, do you have friends in the area?

Well, assuming that you do call your friends up and tell them that you guys should go out and chill on "this" day.

IMPORTANT: Up until this day comes pay her very little attention and act as if the relationship doesn't matter to you anymore. Don't do ANYTHING she tells you to do...ALWAYS try to come up with some sort of excuse or tease her about not being able to do it herself.

Now when "this" day is here ... she will be wondering why you've been ignoring her etc. This is where you'll try to initiate sex. (Do this at least 3 hours before you and the guys are supposed to be going out -- also I would reccomend DEL to increase your chances of her not complaining etc. Just google - DiCarlo Escalation Ladder - and click the first .pdf link)

This can go one of two ways:
1. She gives you sex
2. She doesn't.

Simple enough. If she doesn't then don't beg, don't even complain, act completely noral and comply. Just say ok or something and go back to what you were doing before. Few hours later when you're about to go out, just get ready and make it obvious that you're going out but don't tell her. When you're ready start to walk out the door.

This can go one of two ways:
1. She stops you and says something
2. She doesn't.

If she does ask where you're going tell her you're goign out with the guys. Don't give her any details. At this point she will either think that you're going to fuck some other girl or that you're going to look for another girl to fuck. In reality its neither of these, so if she bitches about it, call her out on it and tell her that she's weird. Again, no details. This completely flips the script because now she sees that her leash has broken and you're actually able to run away now. You're doing what you want and acting like you're the man, this will rub off on her and she will start to act like you're the man.

I did something similar to this to gain my dominance back but I didn't live with her so it was a bit easier.

Also, if you have no friends in the area just act like you do and go somewhere that you enjoy and waste time. Also, if this doesn't work, you might have to be straight up with her and tell her that this is the reason that guys cheat on girls and that you can't be in a half-way relationship where your needs aren't met.

Sometimes being straigh up iis the best option becaus e it shows that youu have the balls to say something instead of just complaining. Good Luck man. Let me know it goes!

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